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Hey, im hopin sum1 can help me out here-im in an awful situation..
I just split with my boyfriend of 2 years.It hurts like hell and its only been three hours
I split with him because he has no respect for me at all. Before he called me a stupid cow and told me to fuck off before slamming the phone down..he said he did this because he thought i was going to "give him shit". I can see why he thaought this but still no need for that! is there?
He always swears at me..it upsets me a lot and i cant keep putting up with it. He never wants to have sex either.ever.
This is awful because i still love him.so much.i miss him already. Hes changed so much since i came to uni in september. Before that we spent every day togrther. Ive been home every weekend to see him since i came here.
We spoke on the phone earlier when we argued and he sais he has no sympathy for me as i finished it. He didnt sound upset at all..I was hysterical.
what can i do? :crying: :banghead: xx
I just split with my boyfriend of 2 years.It hurts like hell and its only been three hours
I split with him because he has no respect for me at all. Before he called me a stupid cow and told me to fuck off before slamming the phone down..he said he did this because he thought i was going to "give him shit". I can see why he thaought this but still no need for that! is there?
He always swears at me..it upsets me a lot and i cant keep putting up with it. He never wants to have sex either.ever.
This is awful because i still love him.so much.i miss him already. Hes changed so much since i came to uni in september. Before that we spent every day togrther. Ive been home every weekend to see him since i came here.
We spoke on the phone earlier when we argued and he sais he has no sympathy for me as i finished it. He didnt sound upset at all..I was hysterical.
what can i do? :crying: :banghead: xx
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I think you are very brave to do what you've done. I have to ask tho..is he at uni? Other lads DO NOT speak to their girlfriends like that unless they have some major issues.
Take this experience, grow and be a stronger cooler more amazing person for it. It's gonna REALLY hurt for a while but this is a relationship to leave behind.
he should be nice all of the time though really. okay so it's impossible to be nice all of the time but it sounds like he's really upset you.
thats what i was gonna say.......
i dont blame you for leaving him, and good on you for finally putting your foot down. You'll find someone who actually deserves your love in time....
Does your boyfriend swear at u? and do u ever think of ending it with him?
He isnt like this all the time..just occasionally.
Hes not like most lads. Hes sweet a lot of the time. Ive got so many cards off him that hes just given me for no reason, he genuinewly doesnt look at other girls(wierd i know), he tells me he loves me all the time, he phones me a lot. always b4 he goes to bed and in the morning. Its not all bad..do all lads do these things?
He just sent me another one saying "no, THEN?" i dont know what to say? what should i say to him?
if you wanted him that badly, would you have split up with him in the first place? and would you even have to consider getting back with him?
It sounds as if you need some time to yourself. It might be a good idea to put your foot down and say that contact should be kept to a minimum so you can both have some time apart and find out what you want.
There are some good articles on dealing with the single life . Best of luck
i went through i really bad patch with my boyf last year (we had been together 2 years). I felt that he didnt respect me, he would speak 2 me like shit most of the time and basically show off in front of his freinds. It came to the point (after endless arguments and so many tears) to break up. He pleaded with me to get back with him so i did and it happened again and again and nothing changed. I hate myself for going back to him to take more shit-i dont know if it was a good idea to keep going back-because it did make me realise that i could do better!!I wish i had just been strong enough to walk away at the beginning. Yeah it does sound like a petty thing to get upset over-but if it really is upsetting you then why should you take it, when there will be someone else out there who wont treat you like that.
Its your decision-hope you make the right one!x