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Relationships and E's - can they work?

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
Two years ago, I was quite happy to look at settling down, and knew exactly where I wanted to go, or at least I thought I did. I have had a dabble in a few bits a piece, the Armani’s, Mitsi’s etc. Now I feel that I am on the brink of a new dawn! I can’t hold down more than a few dates with the kinda women that I traditionally liked, I don’t even like the music that I used to. Please don’t get me wrong, I am really happy, and am in control of the drugs, I take E’s in moderation, sometimes twice a week, then I will go months without anything. I am just wondering if anyone else has had similar experiences, at 28, I really can’t be arsed having a mid life crisis ‘ cus I haven’t settled down yet – if I can get away with it, I will still be doing this when I am 40 (OK, maybe I would like to think that I will still be doing it at 40)!


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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by J:
    I'm the same but I think it's a good thing.
    Last week I met a gorgeous girl who I would normaly jump head over heels for, but I think that E has made me realise that a relationship is not just about looks etc.
    When I talk to her it's as though something is missing from her personality? I can't put my finger on it at the moment, but I think it's her ability to talk to me on a kind of spiritual level? Anyone else been in a similar situation.
    People who I talk to now that don't do drugs just seem so false, where as people who do take drugs seem genuine, and as though they are the real them as opposed to someone that puts all thier energy into upholding the false image that modern society gives us.
    Hope that makes sense?

    J, that's spot on mate, I feel EXACTLY the same!!! it's wierd that eh?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    sorry, i really can't agree with that. I went clubbing on sat and the conversations I had with people on drugs ranged from really deep and insightful to plain stupid-i'm tired of listening to people say 'i'm so fucked, oh my god!' and 'have you got any more?'. Not to mention looking after people who are just too monged out to speak.

    Am I the only one in the middle ground, between those who hate drugs and those who love them? i take pills to dance, be happy and have a good night.

    if in doubt-dance.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    yeah depraved, i'm with you on that one - but when drugs are a new experience its only natural to act like that, nowadays in my refined middle age maturity <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt; i look at youths really pissed been sick and generally lookin stupid and think how immature etc they are, but we've all been there, those cider park nights. Its the same with drugs, i remember waltzing round clubs asking saying those phrases to random people and people always will, but then people will always grow out of it - we all see the errors in our ways through time ! As for the relationship thing, drugs just show you how important life is and they do make you think of number one, selfish ? maybe, arrogant ? perhaps, but usually only to those who don't understand the effects of drugs, they do alter your perception of life and the way you see best to live it and that ensures attitudes to family, friends, relationships, eductaion and hobbies does change mostly for the better ! you just gotta go with the flow

    drugs may be the road to nowhere, but at least there the scenic route
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hi guys,

    i just wrote a reply to this then realised i had forgotten my password as i havent posted for sooo long..

    anyway, to go slightly off topic:

    my bf does pills fairly regularly as did i up to 18 months ago until i stopped doing all drugs for various reasons.

    i dont have a problem with him doing it although i do sometimes feel a bit "square" (to go back to the 70's somewhat!) as all our friends partake in some substance or another.

    I think it can work if both parties are honest and fairly open minded (and trust is important here too..)

    anyway, sorry about that, just thought i'd share.... <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt;

    (however have recently rediscovered weed...Hurrah <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif">)

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I think people who take drugs are more likely to be open-minded and less interested in media hype etc (in general) so maybe these people are more interesting anyway and just happen to take drugs as well... Does that make sense? It does to me but then I'm a little stoned <IMG alt="image" SRC="wink.gif" border="0">
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