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trust issues?
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I feel like my boyfriend doesn't trust me.
He tells me he does and he doesn't mind if I go out with my friends.
It just seems to be a different story when he's there. He accuses me of flirting with just about any boy that I talk to. I have absolutely no intention of cheating on him or chatting up any other men. I'm just being friendly and chatty, that's me, I can't change the way that I act to suit him.
So far he's accused me of flirting with:
- my ex boyfriend who was going out with my mate at the time
- a friend that i used to work with (and he used to work with at a different time)
- his friend who he'd only just introduced me to
Every time he has been there when he's accused me of this.
I feel that he really does have some trust issues. These allgations have always come about when drink has been involved (on nights out with friends) and I guess that's when most people's insecurities come out.
It's just really getting me down and it's starting to cause arguments every time we go out and get into this situation. I'm only nice and friendly because I like these people (as friends) and I want them to like me (in exactly the same way). How on earth can I reassure him that that is all that I'm doing...just being friendly?
He tells me he does and he doesn't mind if I go out with my friends.
It just seems to be a different story when he's there. He accuses me of flirting with just about any boy that I talk to. I have absolutely no intention of cheating on him or chatting up any other men. I'm just being friendly and chatty, that's me, I can't change the way that I act to suit him.
So far he's accused me of flirting with:
- my ex boyfriend who was going out with my mate at the time
- a friend that i used to work with (and he used to work with at a different time)
- his friend who he'd only just introduced me to
Every time he has been there when he's accused me of this.
I feel that he really does have some trust issues. These allgations have always come about when drink has been involved (on nights out with friends) and I guess that's when most people's insecurities come out.
It's just really getting me down and it's starting to cause arguments every time we go out and get into this situation. I'm only nice and friendly because I like these people (as friends) and I want them to like me (in exactly the same way). How on earth can I reassure him that that is all that I'm doing...just being friendly?
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