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i just wanna know!!!
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First of all is there any way possible to get used to sex, everyone says the first time really hurts and i want to kinda get used to it a bit...... okay wierd... ive never done anything with a guy not even pash and for some reason im all of a sudden ready for sex. id rather hav sex for the first time than go down on him for the first time. is it wierd i think oral is gross and hes going to care isnt he.... AGH 
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How old are you anyway?
As far as I'm concered I don't even care about a female that dosn't love the cock as much as I love pussy.
The is not one thing that turns me off more than a female that needs to be begged for anything else than comissionary position sex. And since I was 15 I haven't met fortunately any such females.
Theres a big difference between finding oral sex gross and not being comfortable with it just yet.
Don't rush in to the whole sex thing either, maybe the best test to see if this guy deserves to be the guy thats gona be your first is telling him exactly what you said here.
If hes not understanding of your needs dump him, theres PLENTY more dick attached to much better persons out there. But I'm sure he will be understanding.
A good relationship just as good sex needs comunication between the two.
as for getting used to sex, when you do have it you will get used to it and the vagina stretches with use, it can hurt the first time but if your boyfriend is gentle and makes plenty of effort with foreplay and a bit of KYjelly it will be easier.
make sure you are certain its what you want to do, think very very carefully and make sure you use contraception - maybe go on the pill or patch and most definantly use a condom to protect you against STDS. Also you are only 15 and i'm obligated to point out that sex under 16 is illegal.
*coughs* its 'missionary'....... kinda funny considering u speak as though you're an expert........
as for me i love giving my boyfriend oral, as long as i get what i want in return, which ive worked out thanks to advice from everyone on the forums. but i dont think i would ever have thought of having sex before i got over giving oral. its a step before, and if you cant do that, im not sure you are ready for sex.
First off, you might find it helpful to read our articles about virginity and first time sex. In addition you should also get to grips with where you stand legally and finally, if you do decide you're ready, then it's really important you work out what form of contraception you're going to use, not only to prevent pregnancy to avoid catching an STI.
Hope this helps some,
CB