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how do i know if she was turned on?

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
well, i fingered my girlfriend last night, and i dont know if i am doing it right. she held my hand for a moment, i dont know whether that was too stop me for sec or what, was she in pain or pleasure, her eyes were closed and seemed to be getting quite into it, but i couldnt tell, she is qutie shy so its quite hard to talk to her baout this kinda thing.

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    You could listen for heavy breathing or something like that, my boyf and i never talk about that kind of thing, but i'd certainly stop him if he was causing me pain. You could try talking to her by sending her an e-mail or something if you don't think she'd talk to you otherwause, but having thought about it that could be embarrassing if she read it while her parents were there or something.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Maybe you should offer to do it again and see what her reaction is, if she's really enthusiastic you could probably assume that you were doing it right last time <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt;
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hey chris.
    Firstly, if she was wet down there then she was probably turned on.
    Secondly, if she was in pain, she would have told you to stop, believe me.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    dont stress! im sure she was turned on i often put my hand on my blokes when he is fingering me, it is usually 2 get him 2 do it more! im really open wit my bloke and if i didnt want him 2 do it id tell him! im sure she loved it!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    A good acid test is a Lube-Check

    Wet as a bill-stickers bucket - well done,
    Dry as a Ryvita - Need a little practice
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    was it her first time bein fingered? because if it was it might have hurt. my first time it KILLED!! but all is good now. ask her about it!! if you're in a relationship u should be able to communicate well!!

    ~*~JiLLiaNNe~*~
    If you love something, set it free.
    If it comes back it's yours, if it doesn't it never was.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Ok, when your fingering and her legs start shaking a little bit, then you know you doing a good job.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    If you cant tell then ask her...just ask her if she enjoyed it? If you feel too embarrased to talk about it, or she does, then you arent ready in your relationship to be getting that physical anyway. When it happened to me it really didnt do anything for me at all, and it felt as if I was being molested or something. If you want to please each other, there has to be some communication. Good luck xx

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