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I need going out more

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
in Sex & Relationships
This is going to be a bit of ranting, but... i can't help it.

Okay, i'm not shy anymore. I don't give a damn what other people think about me. I want to socialise a bit. I want to get a gf. Not for the sake of saying "oh, i have a girlfriend", but for the sake of socialising with people. I have friends, but my best make is a bit sick atm, and the other guys aren't really into going out...at least not with me. How do i do this? It's not easy to start clubbing when you're 17, but, i know, there has to be the first time. So, i've got my positive attitude on this, now how do i do it? I've read the articles here at thesite, was wondering if you could give me some advice based on your experience? If people from my class at school were to make a list of students, i'd be in the last 5 out of 30. I'm fed up with being an outsider. How do i break through?

Sorry, had to get the anger out.:(

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I bet you were all left like :eek2: and :crazyeyes Well, sorry for that. Can someone delete my thread?
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    Indrid ColdIndrid Cold Posts: 16,688 Skive's The Limit
    Originally posted by nmrmak
    I bet you were all left like :eek2: and :crazyeyes
    Why do you assume that? (I'm asking because it might explain to me why my threads get largely ignored too).
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Zalbor
    Why do you assume that?

    - Because you are scared that someone will judge you, may be? :confused:
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    Indrid ColdIndrid Cold Posts: 16,688 Skive's The Limit
    Originally posted by otter
    - Because you are scared that someone will judge you, may be? :confused:
    Judge him for what? He didn't say anything bad.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Why do you assume that?

    Mainly because I think that my English isn't profficient enough to express myself. Maybe because my threads can get a bit confusing. And because i know that i am to help myself, and that nobody can do that for me. I think that there isn't really any good advice at the moment, it has to come from within me. But i just don't know how to get those social skills that i lack at the moment.
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    Indrid ColdIndrid Cold Posts: 16,688 Skive's The Limit
    Originally posted by nmrmak
    Mainly because I think that my English isn't profficient enough to express myself. Maybe because my threads can get a bit confusing. And because i know that i am to help myself, and that nobody can do that for me. I think that there isn't really any good advice at the moment, it has to come from within me. But i just don't know how to get those social skills that i lack at the moment.
    Believe me, I'm boiling in the same pot... but I'm not at school anymore, so it's probably harder.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Any suggestions as to how to get out of the pot or turn the heat off?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by nmrmak
    Mainly because I think that my English isn't profficient enough to express myself.

    Hahaha that made me laugh :lol: Your English is much better than that of many English people.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hahaha that made me laugh Your English is much better than that of many English people.

    My writing capabilities are fine, but you should hear my pronunciation.:crying: And all of you could have way better English than I do if you just tried. Because English is not my native language, I have to try really hard to make good sentences. And you guys just can't be arsed to do that. :)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    And you guys just can't be arsed to do that. :)

    Too True ;)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I can see that this thread is steering away from it's subject :)
    Any suggestions for me? (except to go away)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I'm not going to tell you to "go away" :p
    I guess, I don't really know what to say. You want to socialize more - right? But it sounds as though you don't have too much in common with your current network of friends who "arn't into going out with you" - so, start spending time in places where people are likely to share your interests - you need to widen your circle of friends. You could always suggest to your friends that you all go out and do something - like clubbing - see what they say?! or throw a party yourself? - like you say "there has to be a first time." As for wanting to get a girlfriend - it's probably a lot easier if you don't think of it as a task! But same thing really applies: spend some time with people who share your interests - similarities form the foundations of good relationships - you never know, you might find someone special :)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Try going out on your own...its not that bad, honest!
    i did it in magaluf earlier this year because all my friends i went with were lightweights and went to bed at 2am instead of the usual 6 as is the norm out there. went clubbing on my own and sure its quite wierd at 1st when you dont know anyone and have no1 to watch your back or talk to but just get a few drinks down you and hit the dancefloor or go and talk to the lone people looking bored. you'll soon make friends, soon have a great night and with a bit of look you'll get a few phone numbers in the bargain too.
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