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Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
hiya guys,
i havent posted 4 a while, but a little summint is worryin me.
i tend 2 go through phases of eating absolutley tonnes and then hardly anythin.
at the mo im living on 1 fruit corner yoghurt a day, and i still dont realy feel hungry.
people r always tellin me im skinny etc, but last nite i had a school reunion thing from 6th form, and about 3 peeps said i look like id lost weight.
im usually fine bout hardly eatin but 4 sum reason i worried this time as every1 is tellin me 2 eat.
its not as if im tryin 2 b model thin.
my mum ses it could b cause my ex has just reappeared, and wants me back, but he treated me like shit so im havin mixed feelins, but it was startin 2 happen b 4 then. please help, try not 2 tell me 2 go 2 the doc, i feel like an idiot, and he'll just tell me 2 eat or sumint!
cheers guys,
love ya helly

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I really don't know what to say...........'cept you probably should go to the doc.
    I have no idea wat it could be. You probably should have it checked out just to be sure.

    "I just want to feel safe in my own skin. I just want to be happy again." -Dido
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I usually eat frequently and got no probs. But then it sometimes happens that I have a period of not eating(much).
    It happened recently for me when I was taking tests, I slept, was hanging online and slept some more, read and went to bed to wake up and take test the morning after...(circle of bad habits)
    Well, I didn't eat much and after the tests I didn't eat much at all (two fruits and possibly a cake or few cookies).

    In my case no one ever notices(ignorant family), I usually get over it after some time but since you are losing enough weight for people to notice it, it might be a bigger problem for you and I think you should try to do something about it (I was losing _some_ weight, but it only lasted for a week so it didn't really matter). I'm not sure what is the right thing to do though so I feel like this is kinda useless post atm <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt;

    I hope you'll have this sorted out! Good luck and merry christmas.

    -Faf
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Is it that you just don't feel hungry, or is it that you dislike eating or feel guilty about it in some way? I know when I feel stressed or miserable I sometimes don't eat properly but that's partly cos I'm lazy about making food as well <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">.

    If it's just that you don't feel very hungry or forget to eat cos you've got stuff on your mind, you could try planning your meals in advance so that you eat enough. You should be having 3 meals a day with a mixture of fruit, veg, meat etc. to give you a balanced diet and (I think) approx 2000 cals a day. There's loads of this kind of dietary info around so go and have a look and plan your food accordingly. Doesn't have to be overboard on the health thing, just make sure you eat about the right amount.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by helly:
    hiya guys,
    i havent posted 4 a while, but a little summint is worryin me.
    i tend 2 go through phases of eating absolutley tonnes and then hardly anythin.
    at the mo im living on 1 fruit corner yoghurt a day, and i still dont realy feel hungry.
    people r always tellin me im skinny etc, but last nite i had a school reunion thing from 6th form, and about 3 peeps said i look like id lost weight.
    im usually fine bout hardly eatin but 4 sum reason i worried this time as every1 is tellin me 2 eat.
    its not as if im tryin 2 b model thin.
    my mum ses it could b cause my ex has just reappeared, and wants me back, but he treated me like shit so im havin mixed feelins, but it was startin 2 happen b 4 then.

    {{{{{{{{Helly}}}}}}}}} I like anyoneone else who's read this post are worried about you. The reason you aren't eating could be down to stress you are enduring at the moment with your ex. The stress alone will do enough damage without the eating thing.

    Do you feel happier in your mind if you don't eat? I made a very close friend in hospital who when transferred to another hospital, and stopped eating as it made her feel happier not to eat, obviously we were all so very concearned, I spent many a frantic phone call to her and with her parents. Recently E has started eating bits and is slowly getting there.
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    please help, try not 2 tell me 2 go 2 the doc, i feel like an idiot, and he'll just tell me 2 eat or sumint!
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    Ihave found a site http://www.edauk.com/ dealing with issues around eating.The EDA runs a Youth Helpline aimed at children and young adults (18 and under). Call 01603 765 050. This service offers confidential advice on eating disorders for anyone who would like to talk to someone about any issue related to their eating difficulties. The service is entirely confidential.


    Helly I may not be the most jenned up on eating other than comfort eating. But like the rest of the site I care very much for a friend in need. You know where we all are if u need a chat <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
    Take care
    Luka


    The river is wide and oh so deep. I've been walking around in tears, No answers arethere to get. Cause between this world and eternity there is a face I hope to see

    [This message has been edited by LUKA (edited 21-12-2000).]
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I'm going through a stage where I am so fed up with my weight that sometimes I don't eat at all. Yesterday I didn't eat all day and then the only thing I had today was dinner - I only ate because I had to.

    I don't know what your problem could be though, sorry!

    *Tara*

    *Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year!!*
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Helly, is this not eating something u r doing on purpose or r u simply not hungry? It really worries me when I hear girls, and boys infact, having problems with their weight. As Im sure Ive mentioned before Ive had quite a few issues with my eating in the past, one of which mearly killed me, so u can understand why I worry.
    I dont wanna tell u to go down the docters if thats what u dont wanna hear, but thats the only answer really...wether u r not eating on purpose or not, there is obviously some sort of problem here.
    If u need anything u no where I am and I hope u take good care of yourself.
    Lots of love lolly
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I don't know what the answers are Helly, but while you are in this phase, it'd probably be a good idea to take some multi-vitamins & minerals & maybe some echinacea too.

    Take care

    j9
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    thanx guys, ur all so kind.
    its not that i have a problem with my weight, i dont worry bout it at all.
    i havent eaten 4 nearly 3 days, on xmas day we had a family meal, and i said i felt ill, so as no 1 bugged me bout not eatin. yesterday i just had fluids,, and this mornin i had 1 biscuit.
    when i go to eat, i dont feel like it but i try, i heave, i dont spu, but its given me such a sore throat. im even heavin at smells, its awful.
    i feel dizzy as well, but thats from not eatin.
    if it continues im gonna look anorexic, so i may go the doc.
    thanx again guys, i realy apperciate it.
    hope u had a good xmas.
    love helen
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Helly please go to the docters. It dontmatter if u dont have a problem with your weight, it means theres something else wrong. Im really worried bout u so please get it checked out.
    Luv lolly
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Lolly's right Helly, this sounds serious, get yourself along to your doctor, at least he/she should be able to give you reasurance if nothing else <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/redface.gif">)

    you know how we all worry here

    j9
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i know guys that ur right, but its gonna have 2 wait for a while as im off on a cruise 4 4 days over new year.
    im beginin 2 nibble, so mayb things r changin, but i dont know.
    hope u all have a wicked newyear.
    loads a love helen
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by helly:
    i know guys that ur right, but its gonna have 2 wait for a while as im off on a cruise 4 4 days over new year.
    im beginin 2 nibble, so mayb things r changin, but i dont know.
    hope u all have a wicked newyear.
    loads a love helen

    Hope yer havin a good time <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
    j9

  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    sounds to me like you have an eating disorder of some sort, believe me i'm the expert on them! from experience all i can say is if things begin to get out of hand go and see someone sooner rather than later. if you let it get to far you'll never get over it. i was anorexic/bulimic (went through phases of each) and because i let it get outta hand i've never really got over it and i don't think i ever will, its so easy for me to slip back to my old ways. what i'm saying is do something about it early so you make sure you're getting a healthy diet.

    i'm not denying that women are stupid; God made them to match the men.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by helly:
    im beginin 2 nibble, so mayb things r changin, but i dont know.

    Glad to hear you are starting to eat little bits helly, it's a step in the right direction. it is very possible that you have an eating dissorder, or that you may not be eating due to stress or depression.

    I know that latter can be a significant cause, because I have been there many times before myself (and am there myself, I've not eaten much in 2 weeks, i've lost 1 1/2 stone, which is ok for me). I also have a friend I met in hospital Ellie who when she was transferred hospital and didn't eat for a long time. Eventually she started small food such as a few crisps, 1/2 sandwhich a milkshake and is no getting back to healthier eating, and is doing well.

    I believe you will do this helly and you know where we all are.

    hope you had an exellent time on your cruise.

    Loads a love and peace to you all
    Luk

    The river is wide and oh so deep. I've been walking around in tears, No answers arethere to get. Cause between this world and eternity there is a face I hope to see
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    well, over the 4 days i was away i ate 1 sandwich, 1 cereal bar, 1 bread roll, and consumed way 2 much alcohol.
    but, i had 1/2 a bacon buttie 2day and a yoghurt. im feelin realy dizzy 2day though, butim just drinkin loads a tea with sugar.
    i would never b bulimic, i cant stand b in sick, ansd i dont feel im fat or n e thing so i wouldnt not eat on purpose, i just dont feel like eatin.
    1 good thing though, when i had my bloated problem a while a go when i looked preggie, my bellies now gone! its flat again. the only thing stickin out is my belly ring!
    well im off 4 now,
    thanx hope u all had a wicked new yr, i did. loads a luv helly
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hiya guys, i think my stressin can end.
    i have been starvin all day, and havent realy stopped eatin! i wont list what ive eaten- i will sound like a pig.
    i think eatin again is due to my period being due, so being a girlie can cum in useful occasionally.
    well, i will have to c what happens.
    thanx 4 the support
    love ya's helly
    ***************
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Glad to hear that u r getting back on your feet Helly. I hope u carry on this way as Ive been really worried bout ya...how r u anyway, u aint been around much?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i can soooo relate to what youre saying helly. because i go through weeks like that. so if u wanna talk, and dont take offense at me being a newbie, im sooo here. because ive never talked to anyone who's had the same problem, only people that are insecure about their size.
    have the best time on your cruise!! it sounds like u definitely deserve it.
    ignorant families. um, do u ever get to the point where you really really want them to notice whats going on with you, but wouldnt tell them? because i get like that. they dont even ask. and it drives me mad.
    take care
    luv
    Kayleigh xox
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    thanx lolly & kayleigh,
    god ive mad i think, im now eatin every think in sight, i havent wanted chocolate 4 months but im now cravin it! im glad im eatin again, but i am takin the piss abit with the amount im eatin. i cant understand my phases & prob never will, but next time i think i will head 2 the doc &find out. i lost nearly a stone, but im sure its well & truly back on now.

    hiya lolly,
    i have to visit less frequently due to the size of our last fone bill! my mum wernt impressed. ive also bin dead busy lately, what with goin up 2 c my dad, which i v.good of me!, i was ill over xmas and then away over new year. hown u gettin on any way, not long now heh! u scared? have u got all the baby bits & bobs, pram etc id b dead excited, im actually goin 2 work on a maternity ward in a few weeks, but only 4 2wks, i cant wait, ever1 else is dreadin it, they all think im mad! bet ur bellys realy weighin u down! every1 thinks im mad as well 4 wantin a preggie belly! i just love the whole baby thing.
    i found out on mon that another auntie is pregnant & due in june, my family r like bloody rabbits, theres always sum1 pregnant or a baby screamin or a toddler runnin round!!!
    i was in watford on sat 4 sum jan sales, but it was pretty naff, all i wanted was a pair of jeans! but i couldnt find 1 decient pair, so i bought a pair of boots in faith- they were reduced so thats ok!
    well id better b off 4 now. hope u r ok though and keepin well. keep in touch & give ur belly a pat from auntie helen!
    take care
    love ya helen
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Kepp eating girl...u need too teehee! Cheers for the post, Im a bit crappy though cant be naffed to go into it. I got 4 weeks left now and I just want it out, discovered a loveley stretchmeark goin through my tatoo the other day and its totally fucked it up, so as u can imagine Im really happy right now!!! Anyway, glad u r ok, take care ducky <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;
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