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i had sex with a really fit 28yr old mother of 2 the other week
she has now split with her lover and is wanting another go
what should i do.
she has now split with her lover and is wanting another go
what should i do.
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first of all, how old are you? secondly, why did you sleep with this woman - was it because she was really fit+you could sleep with her, or do you really like her?
is her lover the father of her children, and how old are they?
if you really really like her, and not just for the sex, then maybe you could give it ago. what you must realise is that she has 2 children+she will want to put them first (probably).
Did she split up with her lover for you?? if so, then she mustn't have been very happy with him for her to split with him straight after sleeping with another person (i.e. she didnt want to work thru it, or summat similar) - so beware if she's just on the rebound.
If you dont want to give things another go, then you have to tell her honestly and gently - but be prepared for her to be very angry/upset
SBG
BTW, sorry for all the questions, your post was slightly vague though
yet. i think they were about over anyway but id love to fuck her
again maybe even more, cant handle the idea of being a father
scares the shit out of me. im just abit paranoid been hurt once
before. At the moment im just going out 3 nights a week geting
loaded and shagging 2 maybe 3 diffrent women a week.
i said i would never have another gf after the last one and now there is this women i really like with 2 kids don't no what to do.
I say have some more sex. If she's single and you're single, I see no problem. Just be careful you don't get any more emotionally involved with her than necessary, or that could lead to problems. And try to make sure the kids don't catch you bonking.
see, what worries me is you say "id love to fuck her again, maybe more" and then "this woman i really like"! do you like her or not?? i think in this case, you'd have to like her an awful lot to give this a shot, i.e. like her enough to consider being a father to her children (which you may have to do if the 2 of you got 2geva+stayed partners for a long time. Children of that age can be very impressionable, and may see you as a father-figure, whether you want them to or not) and like her enough to not just want a fuck!
(Also, By getting loaded, do you mean getting drunk?)
i can sorta understand you want to sleep around - you're young and free. but you may have to try to get over being hurt in the past, which wont be easy, and basically decide how much you like this woman, sex aside, and whether you want to give it a go! if you do, then be prepared to grow up quickly, as you'll be spending time with a mother whos 8yrs older than you and so should have more life-experience!
Do you know how much she likes you?
SBG
Aw, diddums! Just the once? There there ...
Get real! You gonna get hurt many times more. It's fact of life so just get on with it. I'm guessing that if this is just a fuck, go for it but if it even sniffs of an emotional relationship, get out 'cos you aren't mature enough yet.
Did my head in so much, thanks to every one for yr help.
Aww, shucks
its probably for the best, if you had that reaction just from hearing her kids in the background! how did she take it??
SBG
or pull someone else in front of her then she would get the picture
If your not man enough to speak to her and tell her what you feel then you shouldn't of just fucked her in the first place. Don't just leave her hanging around , just tell her you don't want a relationship and that's it.
imagine this; you go out one night+get with this really fit girl. you start to fall for her+she seems to feel the same, so you sleep with her. Next time you see her she completely blanks you, and you end up broken-hearted!
This woman is not a mind-reader and you owe it to her to just be honest. just give her a call, or even better talk to her in person, and say that you dont want a relationship, but you would like to remain on good terms.mates, etc.
By ignoring her, she probably will get the picture, but it will hurt her alot in the long run. You'll be more of a man by talking to her, than being cowardly
SBG
glad you think it makes sense! Get it over with, and talk to her, then you can get bk to playing around. but piece of advice, just in future make sure that the girls u fuck know that that is all you want, or you'll end up hurting loads of people+maybe even yourself.
SBG
:rolleyes: And so speaks the next generation, there really is no fucking hope.
If this woman sees you doing that i really hope she gives you what you deserve, which incidentally isn't another shag.
Good, let us know how it goes on, or PM me+let me know. the sooner its done, the better.
SBG
two, i'm a sceptic and don't believe someone can mend their ways that easily.
Sorry wrong choice of words. What i was trying to say was you're coming across as a complete bastard with the opposite sex and i get the slight feeling that you do this
with quite a few women.
So in the space of 3 hours you've gone from not giving a toss how you let this woman down to being all contrite and caring about how nicely you let her down.
have you been fuck'd around & hert b4 sounds like it.
I was merely interested as to why the change of heart but no worries, i can see you're uncomfortable with the topic you started so i'll ease off and drop it
your in a bad mood so ya being a bitch why not log off and come
back when you sort ya head out, or even have a discussion about
why ya pissed off.
club were the women all go, women and cheesy music =sex.
whatever you say charly boy. I forget that you've been here more than a day so you've got newbie talking bollocks makes me an expert syndrome. Don't worry, it'll wear off soon.
P.s. if you open a topic then expect some replies. Funny enough that's how discussion boards work. Just because someone doesn't agree with you doesn't mean you can then close the conversation.