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Im not sure why im doing this thread but its something i need to say to people with low confidence.
I went away to "sunny" butlins for 5 days during the week and it was great fun. On the last night i went clubbing to a place called Jumpin Jaks, most people will know of jaks.
Anyway there was a girl there and i instantly took a liking to her, she wasnt over dressed but she was dressed normal and i thought she looked wonderful but shes not everyones cup of tea (to cut to the chase she was a skater girl).
Well i had my eye on her and she had her eye on me too, she even come over to the bar where i was, stood right next to me and ordered her drinks which gave me the perfect oppurtunity to talk to her......but i didnt, i left it.
What im trying to say here is that if you like someone who you know or even if you take a liking to someone in a club, TELL THEM or at least TALK to them. you only live once and dont get many opputunitys to talk to people you really want to talk to. I completely regret not talking to her, knowing my luck she probably lives near me and we would be great together but i wont know because i didnt do what i had to do and that was just to say "hi" or something.
So guys and girls if you like someone, say hi! Start a conversation! Do anything and remember you have got nothing to loose. Even if you are turned down, just say "ok thats cool, see you around". Dont get all down about it just be cool and they will be cool too. Even if you know the person you like quite well, tell them. Chances are they will understand.
Sorry if this is gonna piss anyone off but i wanted to give people a little advice of what i done wrong and how iv learned my mistake for the future. Dont make the same mistake as me.....
Thanks for reading (if you did) and hope it helps a little.
Any replies welcome
I went away to "sunny" butlins for 5 days during the week and it was great fun. On the last night i went clubbing to a place called Jumpin Jaks, most people will know of jaks.
Anyway there was a girl there and i instantly took a liking to her, she wasnt over dressed but she was dressed normal and i thought she looked wonderful but shes not everyones cup of tea (to cut to the chase she was a skater girl).
Well i had my eye on her and she had her eye on me too, she even come over to the bar where i was, stood right next to me and ordered her drinks which gave me the perfect oppurtunity to talk to her......but i didnt, i left it.
What im trying to say here is that if you like someone who you know or even if you take a liking to someone in a club, TELL THEM or at least TALK to them. you only live once and dont get many opputunitys to talk to people you really want to talk to. I completely regret not talking to her, knowing my luck she probably lives near me and we would be great together but i wont know because i didnt do what i had to do and that was just to say "hi" or something.
So guys and girls if you like someone, say hi! Start a conversation! Do anything and remember you have got nothing to loose. Even if you are turned down, just say "ok thats cool, see you around". Dont get all down about it just be cool and they will be cool too. Even if you know the person you like quite well, tell them. Chances are they will understand.
Sorry if this is gonna piss anyone off but i wanted to give people a little advice of what i done wrong and how iv learned my mistake for the future. Dont make the same mistake as me.....
Thanks for reading (if you did) and hope it helps a little.
Any replies welcome
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well said, i've had the same experience as you once, totally regretted not talking to a certain girl, it's more annoying when you know that she was also interested in you, anyway, it's always worth the effort to say hi, you never know what could happen from there.
i think alot of it is about self esteem and fear of rejection, but what is the worst that can happen, 99% of girls who reject you just smile and say you're not her type or something along those lines, shy people fear the worst, usually a drink or two helps overcome this problem, not a suggestion though
I would agree in that it is fear of rejection and also the self esteem, thats something i lack big time.
I didnt want to bring back any bad memories for anyone i.e. stargalaxy so im sorry for that.
One thing i have noticed recently is that a lot of blokes lack self esteem and confidence because its true that we fear the worst but other times we can be pretty confident with ourselves and others.
Richeh, i think the reason why its so hard to approach girls these days is because if we approach them, they are in full control of the situation and the pressure is on them to say "yes" or "no" therefor we place ourselves in their hands.
In my opinion most girls are very confident, most of the time too confident.
A huge problem is when you don't get to fall in love for long periods of time, and when you do, you don't fall out easily either. If i got to like a girl in a few months from now, i'd really be happy, and i'd definetly (please correct my spelling) go for it.
I think i probably am pretty aloof and unapproachable, i've been called intimidating more than once by a bloke who risked it But i have to admit that i'm one of those people who doesn't really think shyness is cute. I've always gone for blokes with confidence or easy going ways as i used to be really shy and it always helps me if the bloke is chatty/outgoing as it puts me at ease. That said i'm a pretty confident person who's at ease with herself so maybe my tastes will change as i get older.
Well done rudebwoy by the way :thumb:
I gotta admit there its so much easier to talk to people when they are showing the signs, she was showing the signs.
Also in my opinion its way so much easier for a girl to pull a guy than it is for a guy to pull a girl. I think most blokes will agree there.
Also im glad people appreciate what iv said in the first post, hopefully it will help a few people in the future so they can learn from my mistake