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problems flirting
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seriously i just cant flirt with anyone, its getting quite bad now, so emtionally detached from life...
its normally the reason why i dont ge tpast mates stage with a girl, cause i dont make a move quick enough
when i have got past it, its only cause the girls really confident herself and if shes really flirting i can sort of reciprocate it, but sometimes i still cant then, even if i want her
i swear i suffer from aspergers cause i display all main symtoms
cant even do small talk with anyone
any advice or anyone suffer from this?
its normally the reason why i dont ge tpast mates stage with a girl, cause i dont make a move quick enough
when i have got past it, its only cause the girls really confident herself and if shes really flirting i can sort of reciprocate it, but sometimes i still cant then, even if i want her
i swear i suffer from aspergers cause i display all main symtoms
cant even do small talk with anyoneany advice or anyone suffer from this?
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Actually, i am too good at making friends with girls i like. When they are like "just wanna stay good friends" or "let's not spoil what we have", i feel like crying. Not quite an advice, huh?
Give us some advice!
Down with the categoric imperative!
CB
i jst cant flirt cause naturally im jsut emotionlly detached it seems
Well you got a pretty hot look girl with her arms around you on FaceParty .. so you must be good at soemthing
Though don't be heavy on them.
If ya like a girl, just be straight with her there and then.
Charm a girl, tell her what you like about her, so long as it doesn't go along the lines if... 'You got great boobs' :-/
Tell her, she's funny, if ya think so, or smart, or even comment on how pretty you thinks she is. Then start talking about how you'd like to see her again. etc. etc.
she just my mate, kind but a bit dippy
yeh its annoying cause i know that
but overall yeh its quite good advice thanks, my problems just involve implementing it
Yeah Women often like more mature men, feel free to send her my number
Failing that doing Salsa Dancing Event on 7th October in London -
Flirting can come more naturally with some girls then others, I used to work with one girl and we just have a naturel connection somehow to flirt but kinda wind her up too for fun ... The other womeninthe office reckoned we'd get married one day but we didn't .. LOL
Waitresses are easy to tease, soemoen I know went for a meal at Pizza Hut and now married ot the watriess that served him.
Hmm... I like ur advice
If she's a mate, just be straight with her and say that love being with her and would like to take her out. Showing her you are actually wanting more than just friendship.
I know it's hard to work up the courage to just spit it out. But you either put it out in the open or you will just be living on 'What Ifs'.
Yeah, i just hate that. In the end i told her, but was too deep in a friendship, and she wanted to stay friends. So the summary would be:
1. Live on what ifs for 2 years, being constantly depressed
2. Give up and achieve nothing
What a waste of time that was!
Learn from your mistakes. I've had me moments, were I drop hints instead of spitting it out. It happens. Just try next time not to put it off too much. Ya like her; tell her.
No! But it's even harder for me to be a friend now than it was when i didn't like her in that way. Do you need a friend that makes awkward silences, not because he wants to, but because he really likes you? Wouldn't you be a little uncomfortable? That's not really friendship. I like her too much to just forget about her, but i am trying to all the time. I just hate that...
Edited to change all the "u" with "you"
If she aint really a friend, then maybe it's time for you to take a step back. Why keep reminding yourself you can't be with her by being in her company and having to suffer with awkward silences?!
I have been there, were I met a guy and first friendship, he wanted to be with me, but all I wanted was his friendship; then as he got involved with someone else it dawned on me I actually liked him more than I thought BUT I lost my opportunity.
Just remember the next time your meet a girl you like, don't beat about the bush. Tell her what you like about her and ask her if she would like to go out with ya sometime.
It's really hard, but unfortunately you gotta move on from her. You will except it eventually, especially if you put yourself out in the open in looking for someone else.
Thank you for advice, you really really helped me
Xxx
Probably you're being too nice to them.