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One day, hopefully soon, you'll realize that.
One day, many years from now, you will look back at photos of yourself, and realize how truly beautiful you are, and how insignificant minor blemishes are. You'll realize that your thighs weren't fat, and that to some people they were your best feature. You're a girl for Christ's sake! You're supposed to have fatty deposits on your thighs, it's natural, it's what gives you shape, and curves, and what makes us blokes drool.
As for telling him what you want. Maybe something to loosen your inhibitions and tongue would help. I'm not a great advocate of alcohol, but a couple of drinks before having a chat may well help. Note: I say a couple of drinks, not half a bottle of vodka! Hopefully by the time those couple of drinks have worn off you'll be talking about anything and everything that you sexually desire, and all will be fine.
Do you find you have problems saying the words themselves? I'll bet you don't have any problems swearing? It's just that you have to use the words a bit more creatively.
If I'm ever at the top of a bridge debating on whether to jump or not I hope they don't send you to talk me down
this is the last time im saying it, stop making these assumptions about me.
i dont love him no, i care about him alot and i feel comfortable with him. if i loved him i would still be this shy its nothin to do with that. and i dont know why u cant seem to accept it
i just dont like my body and dont want to go for it and do somethign wrong. as simple as that
thank u, you've actually made me feel better about myself by writin that.
we've talked about it and its not that i have trouble with the words, its just i dont really know what i want to be saying exactly.
things have all changed now, so hopefully it'll get better
sex and self esteem
sex with your vest on
Well save up for cosmetic surgery,go down the gym or get over it ..
If you're offering a guy sex on a plate do you think he really cares
How charming.
Next time you're thjinking of making a helpful and intelligent comment, go and play with the traffic instead.
In many cases love and trust are inexorably linked, and no matter how much you like and trust somebody, the only real trust can be if you love somebody.
Sex, and being naked in front of another person, is an extremely intimate thing, and for some people they can only reach this level of intimacy by being in love with their partner.
DG isn't being unreasonable in pointing this out, there's no need to shout.
Hey I was just trying to show the original poster how closed minded she is being .. like you said the other guy took the time and trouble to offer some really good advice NOT based on assumptions but on the information she's given and she just threw it in his face!!
sorry i wasnt shouting. and as u said some people. and i'd said thats not how it is with me and he still kept on,
i just really pisses me off wen people dont listen to wat im actually saying
i didnt throw it back in his face. i just told him he was wrong and he kept on.
and im not being close minded. im not offering it to him on the plate. i wouldnt ever be so pathetic as to get cosmetic surgery and i am going to the gym
thank you, they were helpful
Although it should be noted that if you don't love him, you don't know what it would be like if you did love him. Innit.
When you post a question in an open forum the advice peole give back in their replies isn't just for YOU .. it's also for people in a similar situation
If you go out of your way to attack one person who I think only posted his advice twice then it probabaly means he hit a nerve and was right in the first place.
If your legs are something you don't like then I assume you also don't wear bathing outfits that show them off or short skirts or even shorts? If so then your post has little to do with sex.
EXACTLY
i didnt want a lecture, i just wanted some advice.
i dont love him.
i dont wear things which show off my body. that doesnt mean my thread isnt about sex. because it is.
Well judging from your Av you have a webcam so why not try flirting and maybe even showing off your bits on webcam, then maybe you be less insecure about doing it when there's a guy in the same room rather then on the other end of the PC - you don't even have to show your face on some sites so no one will ever know it's you.
But strong word of advice .. don't snap at people who try to help you ... or it won't be long before you find your friends going out on a weekend and find they don't want to ask you to come along ...
And you got advice, advice on what could possibly cause it.
All both DG and I said was that body hang-ups are less of an issue for a lot of people when their partner is someone they love dearly.
It might not apply to you, but it is still a valid point.
Nobody is saying that you are wrong for not loving him, it is just one reason of many. Especially as it is hard to have a full and fulfilling sex life if you don't trust your partner enough to be naked with them.
Very True Kermit ... Not quite sex, but dancing with a partner has many similarities.
Last night I went Salsa dancing for the very first time and in my beginners part of the class there was 5 of us 3 guys and 2 girls so the instructor pulled out from the sideline some very experience salsa dancer to even up the numbers.
Anyway the first girl I had was great we made a few mistakes but we just smiled and laughed it off, the 2nd girl was a nightmare and kept resisting my lead and wanting to go off in her own direction and the third girl who was the expert dancer and obviously most experienced I thought would be the most easiest to dance with but turned out to be the hardest of the three!!
Luckily they swapped us again and I got back my first dance partner who was also a total beginner and things just fitted into place perfectly.