lack of communication

BillieTheBot

how, in the nicest way possible, do i hint to my bf that if he doesn't make more of an effort in our relationship by contacting me (occasionally/ever) we're gonna be over soon enough.. not that i want this to happen, just kinda want him to take me more seriously.

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Dont hint that will just confuse.....you gotta be blunt and spit it out.
No good beating around the bush, be nice about it but be totally honest as well.

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*gone*

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Don't be subtle. Tell him.

Swank, that isn't very relevant. If one partner isn't making an effort then there's problems.

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It's true. You've just gotta get to the point when it comes to things like this. He may not think that there's a problem until you tell him that there is. Then it's up to him whether he sorts it out or not

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I say don't tell him. Just stop calling him. Let him wonder where you are. See if he starts calling you then.

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i got round to mentionin it to him. didn't really help, now i know he doesn't want a proper relationship cus of uni. whether or not i can stay wiv him knowin this is a whole other thing tho

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Originally posted by Janjan
i got round to mentionin it to him. didn't really help, now i know he doesn't want a proper relationship cus of uni. whether or not i can stay wiv him knowin this is a whole other thing tho

sorry to be blunt, but if he doesnt want a proper relationship due to uni, etc, and you say the relationship wont last much longer anyways if he doesnt make more of an effort (which i dont think he will, as he says he doesnt want a relationship), why dont you end it??? it'll enable you (and him) to move on+he may realise what he's lost ?
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