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like your family??
Should all 'love' between family members be 'unconditional'??
Should all 'love' between family members be 'unconditional'??
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not all of the time though! but that's how it is really.
I also think it's strange that with distant relatives and even relatives you haven't seen in years and years (or perhaps, ever), you still feel a link with them and indeed care about them. Blood ties are still something I know I take seriously, and although I probably know the postman better than I know a lot of my more distant relatives, I'm far closer to them. Does that make sense to anyone but me?
Something to think about, anyway
i love my little brother.. we're pretty tight...
i hate my dad.. but i love him out of duty.. if that can make sense.. like he really really pisses me off because he's psycho and he cheats on my mom and he's psycho and he'll come in my room and if he thinks it's messy he'll take my mattress and throw it out into the hall and take everything i own in my room and throw it out into the hall leaving me with a bigger mess than i started with... but i still love him
i hate my older brother.... if he died.. i would be happy... but that's probably because he did terrible, unspeakable things to me...
so no.. i have to say that i don't love everyone in my family...
i don't think that you can say one type of love is stronger than another.. in a way all love should be unconditional... so a special "family bond" has nothing to do with unconditional love... however there is also a special bond within a family but that doesn't mean you can forgive someone just because they're of your blood....
Fucking hate my step-family though, fuck'em.
Just because you didn't choose to be related to someone, that doesn't mean you should be obligated to 'love' them.
i like some of my family, theres a couple who I dont give a shit about at the moment, but thats another story.
No you dont have to love all your family, just like you dont have to like them. You were born into the family, does not mean everything is gonna be hunky dorey all the time, you didnt choose your family.
Respect them and put up with them (respect bit if they deserve it).....that how I see it anyhow.
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I do love my immediate family. As I am just so grateful to have them. YaY
i have serious issues with my brother, but there's still something there. i don't like him, and would be quite happy to never see him again, but i'd be sad if he died, or if horrible things happened to him. that might not make much sense to anyone but me.
Well yeah, that was my entire point really...the fact that no, you shouldn't be obligated to love them unconditionally and forgive them (pretty much) anything, but you do. Simply because you happen to share some DNA or a family name.
I wasn't saying at all that it's right and everyone should turn a blind eye to everything their family does, just that it's a very rare thing for someone to actually disown a family member when they'd have cut short a friendship in the blink of an eye, had the same circumstances arisen or events occurred. It's shades of the saying "blood is thicker than water", which rings true in a lot of situations. Of course it happens that family members are estranged, but it's not all that common.
Respect is always earned, family member or not.
We're close to all the rest of my family aswell; we all live within a 5 mile redius of eachother, and we're forever going out for huge family celebrations at every opportunity. I think it's pretty fab that we can all get on so well, when we're all so different. Depsite how close the whole family is on a whole, though, nothing can compare to the closeness of my immediate family. I wouldn't change any of them for the world.
Bingo! :thumb:
I don't like them though.
Thats y I had to move out.