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Hello people,
I got woman trouble at this minute in time, and its really getting me down. Ive been waiting for months to start a relationship with a girl at work for ages and about a month ago we decided to get together as she was no longer happy with her boyfriend and wanted to be with me. I waited a few weeks before we got it together. Its amazing we have the same interests, feel a connection, and a strong attraction. Thing is she has several personal/family problems which ive been trying to take her mind of yet supporting her. We love spending time with each other she stayed at mine most of last week. However after no contact with her for a day i get a txt this morning saying 'hi sexy, im sorry but i feel we should have a break for a while and just be mates...etc.' she said she needs to be at home as shes is going through a lot which i can accept, but why split from a relationship which has barely started when i can still support her? ive asked mates today and they have said women like to be alone when dealing with problems and have no other pressure of a relationship. Does anybody think this is true? Or could anyone suggest a reason why she has just completely out of the blue decided to end it? I quite heartbroken at the minute dont know what to think can anybody give a reason why she just want to be mates because this girl allways tells me how much she liked me, im confused!
I got woman trouble at this minute in time, and its really getting me down. Ive been waiting for months to start a relationship with a girl at work for ages and about a month ago we decided to get together as she was no longer happy with her boyfriend and wanted to be with me. I waited a few weeks before we got it together. Its amazing we have the same interests, feel a connection, and a strong attraction. Thing is she has several personal/family problems which ive been trying to take her mind of yet supporting her. We love spending time with each other she stayed at mine most of last week. However after no contact with her for a day i get a txt this morning saying 'hi sexy, im sorry but i feel we should have a break for a while and just be mates...etc.' she said she needs to be at home as shes is going through a lot which i can accept, but why split from a relationship which has barely started when i can still support her? ive asked mates today and they have said women like to be alone when dealing with problems and have no other pressure of a relationship. Does anybody think this is true? Or could anyone suggest a reason why she has just completely out of the blue decided to end it? I quite heartbroken at the minute dont know what to think can anybody give a reason why she just want to be mates because this girl allways tells me how much she liked me, im confused!
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But it may be best to get a womans perspective on this as a womans mind can work in some strange ways :crazyeyes and she may just need some space.
Sorry mate. But then again she might be different.
i guess for now all you can do is be the best friend you can be....
that sounds kinda cliche....
Sometimes when people are having problems they deal better with it on their own and don't want to bring other people into it.
Anywho, if her problems are as big as you make them sound then chances are she needs time to sort her head out with regards to those issues. Perhaps she doesn't feel comfortable having someone close to her. She probably needs the time to think about herself right now without the added strains of a relationship.
Having said that, I don't know either of you so obviously I'm just giving a suggestion.
The reason why she's dumped you? God knows. Whenever I've heard that having a break crap it's meant "I'm shagging someone else" (as I've found out later on). Hopefully it doesn't mean that for you.
That's SOOOOO not true!!!! sometimes we HONESTLY need a break to sort out our feelings and thoughts or to deal with other things and can't have a distraction at that time....
but.. way to be really optomistic and all....
the best thing to do is honestly be her friend... obviously you can't sleep with her anymore but you can still be flirty and touchy feely... just not as much... but you should still pay attention to the signs that she's giving you... if she seems uncomfortable when you're being flirty and touchy feely then back off... if she goes along with it.. continue... and also everyday will be different.. so sometimes she will like to be playful with you and other days she won't... you just have to pay attention! and to be honest... guys suck at that
End of the day sounds like you can do a lot better than that.
... that's pretty much what it boils down too....
maybe she's just incredibly insecure with herself and liked the thought of having a guy hanging around waiting for her... and she just wanted to play games...
im sure you knew this... but girls like to lead guys on, regardless of their feelings for them... yeah i know.. terrible use of pronouns but i hope you get what im saying
if you want ill kick her ass! adn she'll look like this --->:crazyeyes but then again.. i live in the US.. im kinda far