could do with a lil help

Former Member

Ive jus split with my girl, she found sum1 else

i want to forget her an move on but i cant, I cant get over feelin so depressed and hurt

any tips u can give a broken hearted lad?:(

Former Member

u say u *just* split up with her...

its gonna take longer to recover and you probably cant expect much yet

Just keep busy, dont dwell on it an eventually you will move on

Former Member

If you've just split up you need to give yourself time to come to terms with it, let it sink in and (in a sense) grieve for the loss of the relationship. Give time to your thoughts, look after yourself, do your usual things and make that extra effort to go out with friends, spend quality time with them and with your family if you get along. Try and keep everything in perspective, try and keep reasonably busy but don't push the break up out of your mind, deal with the emotions that go hand in hand with breaking up as and when they hit you.

Expect to be sad, angry, desperate for a second chance. Don't be a pushover if she comes back, don't chase her if she doesn't. She's made her decision and now you have to think about yourself. Come on here to rant, talk to a friend, write it all down somewhere, vent your stress/anger/sadness.

I hope you feel better soon Someone will be along with better advice than me soon enough, just wanted to give you a few words of support. Many people know what you're feeling.

Former Member

cheers guys i really appreciate it, to tell u the truth i think this is the first time ive been genuinely heart broken so its kinda new 2 me, thanks 4 ur support

Former Member

No problem, it's hard but you'll survive and hopefully be stronger for the experience.

Just take each day as it comes

Former Member

yeah dude, you know, itll just dissapear one day and ull think, what the fuck was i so worried about, then you'll be well happy. and keep in mind what my dad always says

"when you get older you'll find someone exactly like you in everyway and you'll fall in love




















then you'll dump her and marry her mate"

Former Member

haha nice one evil_dave and griggi that seems like good advice.

Losing a gf can never be good but like briggi says go out with yafriends. Hopefully you can have some rebound sex, im sure it will help haha.



.matt

Former Member

Originally posted by intrigue
Losing a gf can never be good but like briggi says go out with ya friends and hopefully have some rebound sex,

Briggi didn't say anything about going out and having rebound sex. It won't help. It'll take your mind off it for a few hours then you'll be back to square one again.

Former Member

sorry is that better phrased!
Did you not notice the sarcasm either.
Oh i give up.
.matt

ClaireBear

Hiya Todger,
*hugs*, hope you're OK.

There's some really helpful tips in these articles on TheSite:
Mending a broken heart
How to move on
Getting over it

Hope these help some.

Oh and just a little tip for the boards... we don't really allow text talk but I just thought I'd tell you before someone flamed you for it.

CB

Former Member

you dont allow txt talk? Hmmm thats a novel point although i think txt talk kinda came from the internet so thats like saying you cant use windows on ya pc
.matt

ClaireBear

Hmmm, questioning a mod? Not always a good idea

Anyways if you look at TheSite boards good manners guide you'll see a section about text talk that should explain it.

I wasn't having a go at Todger but I've seen the flaming newbies can get if they use it excessivley and wanted to give him a bit of a hint to avoid that.

CB

Former Member

Originally posted by ClaireBear
Hmmm, questioning a mod? Not always a good idea

Well i didnt know you was a mod and also it matters not. Questioning mods is my job and its urs to have impartial friendly answer. Being an admin at another board i wouldnt expect any of my mods to get on a high horse although the wink after makes me think you was onyl playing so ill shut up now
.matt

Former Member

also i love jay and silent bob
.matt

Former Member

Cheers claire and matt but dont you two be fallin out over lil ol' me and my abreviated speech

Former Member

Hey, dunno if this helps, but my bf dumped me bout month ago maybe, was very upset, you know was thinking of losing my virginity to him, were together for 6 months, i really really liked him 'n he kinda just threw it back at me. For the first week, didn't really do much, just mope around, and after that when on a pulling spree lol. Didn't do much good the next morning but it helped move on. Go out with your mates and try and forget about it, you'll have plenty of time to think bout it when you're on your own!

Former Member

yeah it does help, its nice to know that there a still a few good people left in the world

Former Member

Originally posted by Todger
Cheers claire and matt but dont you two be fallin out over lil ol' me and my abreviated speech

no i apologised i know how mods take some shit sometimes
.matt