are lads all the same???

Former Member

How is it that some lads can act so dumb especially mine..?
He proposed to me properly on new years eve/day and he refuses to make it public infront of his friends (male and female). He won't even buy me a proper ring.. He's 21 and if he made a commitment like that he should follow it through, so I think. He's great and we never leave each others side our families love us a lot and say they are happy with us being together(even though I'm 16 and he's 21)
what do you good, good people think??

Former Member

No all lads aren't the same! but as a lad I do sympathise with him, I am sure he is just waitting for the right time to announce things, do your parents know because if they dont then a relationship is much different from a marriage. Give him soem time, you know he loves you otherwise he wouldn't have proposed. And I know some of us good, good people may question the age thing, but you go ahead and have a great time ok? let us know what happens.

Dark.

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I never said I loved you...
However I will fuck you...
until someone better comes along!!!!

Former Member

Originally posted by Dark Knight:
And I know some of us good, good people may question the age thing, but you go ahead and have a great time ok? let us know what happens.

Dark.

I'm a good, good person and I don't think 5 years is much! Besides the mental age is probably the same cause women do mature much quicker than guys! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt; 5 years is nothing!

Your fiance may just be waiting for the right moment to tell everybody! I'm sure he will in a few days! Good luck and keep us posted <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt;

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Girl-From-Mars

firstly, congratulations! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

i know people will most likely flame me for it.. but i think 16 is too young to be getting engaged and making a committment like that for the rest of your life! im only 18 myself, and i wouldnt consider getting engaged at this age. my friend got engaged at 17 when she was in a long term relationship, but they realised theyd made a mistake and shouldnt have got engaged at all. they broke up, and got back together again eventually for various reasons, but the engagement's off.

now there's no saying you wont be happy together for the rest of your lives, im just going by my friend's experiences. i thought i was happy with my own long term relationship.. well that lasted all of 16 months, hardly a lifetime! do you really want to never go out with anyone again apart from your fiance? what if you change too much for each other and dont want to be together? now i know these are only what if's, but some are more likely for getting engaged young. but in the end, its your decision and im sure you've thought about all these things yourself <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

have you talked to him to ask why he hasnt announced it? if you tell him it hurts you that you feel he doesnt want everyone to know, and tell him how you feel like he's shirking his committment and want to be able to discuss it in front of his and your friends. maybe he'll be able to see how you feel about the whole thing a bit better if you explain how it makes you feel.

sorry if i start a war on age and getting engaged! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/eek.gif"&gt; didnt mean to offend <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

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Former Member

First of all, congratulations!

U sed ur families r happy u bein 2gether, but do they know about the engagement? If they don't then maybe he is scared of their reaction.

Maybe he didn't tell his mates because he's scared he'll look soppy (why r guys like that?).

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Former Member

Girlz. Give us guys a break, as the only guy replying in this thread I feel we r being stereotyped badly. Guys, thanx to todays society, have to look like they are hard all the while people are around, I am one of these guys. Not hard as in the way Mr. T. Is hard but, unbreakable, no eomtions. And although we are all one big pile of emotions, some are better than hiding them then others, Im not trying to defend the stupid guys, who are all hard all the time, the fake ones. but dont label us all, k?

dk

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I never said I loved you...
However I will fuck you...
until someone better comes along!!!!

Former Member

Originally posted by Dark Knight:
Girlz. Give us guys a break, as the only guy replying in this thread I feel we r being stereotyped badly. Guys, thanx to todays society, have to look like they are hard all the while people are around, I am one of these guys. Not hard as in the way Mr. T. Is hard but, unbreakable, no eomtions. And although we are all one big pile of emotions, some are better than hiding them then others, Im not trying to defend the stupid guys, who are all hard all the time, the fake ones. but dont label us all, k?

dk

Ahhh...broken heart happens to be a guy (despite the name). Actually, his name just goes to prove the point that not all men are the same - broken is showing off his emotional side in his name.

Former Member

Originally posted by Turtle:
Ahhh...broken heart happens to be a guy (despite the name). Actually, his name just goes to prove the point that not all men are the same - broken is showing off his emotional side in his name.

Couldn't have put it any better myself <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

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Former Member

sorry man my bad. have a drink on me. (not literally on me, let me pay!)

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I never said I loved you...
However I will fuck you...
until someone better comes along!!!!

Former Member

first of all - i think all guys are pretty much the same. some are better than others but in general theres not much difference.
the fact that he wants to keep the engagement quiet suggests to me that theres something not quite right going on there. i don't know though really i could be totally wrong and hes just shy or something!
but i would suggest that you sit him down and talk to him and make sure that everythings cool between you. just be honest with him and share the worries that you've got.
good luck <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

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i'm not denying that women are stupid; God made us to match the men.

Former Member

Originally posted by Dark Knight:
Not hard as in the way Mr. T. Is hard
dk

Man, i loved Mr T! Nah, seriously, I am in the same suituation and it is hard telling people like your mates cos im only 16 and most of my mates, although realise I love my fiancee to bits, think its young love, think it wont last more than a few yrs etc etc. Give the guy some time...

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Respect

Former Member

Cheers u lot I'll take ur advice,
My man doesn't act hard, but he says if he acts romantic I will take advantage of him. which i think is wrong
thankenu,
love baby xx