Girlfriend Is Blanking Me!

Former Member

I've been seeing a girl for three years. She's got two kids. She's attractive, sexy, but....she has a temper endorsed by Satan! (Well, ok, not THAT bad) anyway, to cut a long story short....we've been arguing alot lately. She bollocks me about anything, and I attempt,pathetically, to defend myself. Usually ends up with me leaving the house to avoid abuse! SHe says she is frustrated I wont move in with her and settle down. My argument is " why would I want to settle down with the prince of darkness?!" (I'm sure, sometimes, I can see the Grim Reaper standing behind her, nodding, as she bollocks me!). Anyway, I have written a letter proclaiming undying love, lots of kisses and cuddles - but still the bollockings rain down on me! What should I do? Dump her? (I do love her, though and I know she loves me - but I don't think she likes herself much.)I've been on so many guilt trips lately, my passport is almost full!

Serious or comedy replies please - I need some light relief! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;

Former Member

ok listen up my man, I'm almost certani u've tried this already but i'm just gonna have to tell u again!! u gotta talk to her about it, i mean if u love her that's all fine and good but that's no excuse for what she's doing, so u gotta say 'enough, or i'm out', only be tactful about it, or u'll probably get a fist in the eyeball from the sounds of it <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt;

good luck

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Former Member

Hmmm has it gotten worse lately or has it always been like this?

Maybe you should think about how you deal with it before, and what made you see past it and still love her. If you can't think of anything then you have a lot of serious considering to do. If you can - then bring up that kind of stuff when you talk to her about it.
Also -what is she on you about? Maybe there's a reason. Is there stuff that you're not doing that you should be maybe?

Just some suggestions <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

Former Member

how old are u and ur gf?

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Former Member

Thanks for your responses, I was pleasantly surprised. Well, we're both 30, I'm the independent type and I don't take life too seriously. She, on the other hand, I think takes life too seriously and worries alot. One of my problems is not taking her problems seriously enough (I always think "that's NOT a problem!) I know women like to explain their problems and need someone to just listen. Being a bloke I always try to find solutions and tell her how to get on instead of just listening. Women seem to be very emotional creatures! Sometimes it's difficult for blokes to express their emotions as much as women and I am guilty of that too. I tried Monkey Boy's approach once before - it works a treat as long as the other person actually still loves you, but it does leave them feeling a bit insecure and not knowing if you still love them (maybe I don't say it enough. In fact I know I don't!)I have just started a new job, so has she, and we see each other a lot less now. That obviously hasn't helped, I'll leave her alone for maybe a couple of days and wait for her to call me, I guess. I know she still loves me - so I'll let you know what happens. Thanks again