AGE.

Former Member

do age gaps really matter?
or is "Love knows no age" a complete load of tosh?

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Former Member

i don't think age matters but then you have to watch the guy if he's older, i've come across plenty of perverts,(the only word to describe them)

Former Member

It all depends on how large the age gap is, and how old the youngest member of the couple is.
If the girl is 13 and the lad is 20, then there is something fucked up there, because he is obviously taking advantage of her inexperience (although in this day and age u cant be sure), or vice versa with a 13 yo lad and a 20 yo woman.
I personally would not go out with anyone who is over 2 years younger than me at the moment, cos that would make them 14/15 yo. However when both members of the couple are mature enough to handle a significant age gap then it shouldnt matter. It only matters when one person is jail bait and the other is old enough to vote.

Former Member

I don't think age gaps matter. If u fall in love u can't help it. But I'm a hopeless romantic!

Former Member

i dunno. because i dont think the age gap should really matter, but saying that..
there's some 23yr olds who go out with 13yr olds. and i think that the gap in age isnt so bad, but the fact that the 13 yr old hasnt grown up yet u no? and the 23yr old has had that chance.

i, despite any negative posts, am i hopeless. so i dunno, if two people are really truly in love,then they should throw caution to the wind and go for it. coz sometimes you can only understand when ur in that situation, and people on the outside automatically take it as a bad thing.

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Former Member

It's different as you get older, but in your teenage years, when everyone is so vulnerable, I think it's dangerous to go out with people with an age gap of even 2 years. It can be ok, but people change so much at that age...

Former Member

I generally go for older men cos 15 year old boys are (generally) immature and unattractive by nature.
My last bf was 20, the 1 before that 21. The other more recent ones have been 18 ish/19ish.
I think so long as you are on the same wave length, and one person isnt taking advantage of the inexperienced younger person.
I guess it just depends on the individual.

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"I just want to feel safe in my own skin. I just want to be happy again." -Dido

Former Member

Well i'm 16 & i would go 4 a guy no more than one year younger but about 5 years older. I once went out wit a 21yr old & last nite @ the pub i pulled a 22yr old. But i've also been out wit 2 guys in the year below me @ school but i usually go out wit guys who r about 1 or 2 yrs older.

Former Member

I think that age gaps lessen with age. Like the older you are gaps aren't a big of deal, but at a young age you change SO much in a year.

Girl-From-Mars

i agree with whats been said already. i was in the same year as my ex, but i was 5 months older. and i think its probably right in general that girls mature quicker than boys. although i know several blokes my own age, well technically younger than me, even more so than my ex, and theyre pretty mature for their age. so i probably wouldnt go out with anyone younger, but would consider a few years older. and im 18 at the mo.

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Former Member

ive met a 24yr old (25 in feb) and im 18, ive never bin out with a lad whos more than 2yrs older than me.
hes not bothered, he sumed it up realy well, he said, ur as young as the girl u feel!!!! i thought that was quite funny!
guys my age r so immature i get realy pissed off with em. hes just the right age i think.
some age gaps do take the piss thought, i saw in the paper sum famous bloke of 70ish going out with a 24 yr old! thats just mad, she blatently after the money.
but sayin that if u love each other then whats the prob, its only a number afterall.

Former Member

Originally posted by j9:
As far as I'm concerned age should not be an issue, what is more important that you have similar attitudes on various issues. [snip]there's no reason why it shouldn't work, but it is likely that the older person's "ways" are probably fairly well defined, whereas the younger one may have alot of changing still to do.

J9

How true J9 ! My ex was 7 yrs younger than me and we were together for 3 years. The only problem we encountered was the emotional differences. Whereas I was comfortable with certain things, she got confused and we had to do a lot of talking to ensure we understood each other.... it's definately more hard work i think, but it can also be more rewarding.

Ultimately, people are not necessarily mentally as old as their age suggests. Personally, I always feel 21 <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt; Seriously though, I think the only issue is how well you communicate and how much effort you are willing to make.

It is quite common in most cultures around the world for women to marry older men. I think the reason for this is because women mature faster than men and are generally about 5 years mentally ahead of the guys of the same age..... of course, for others there's also a physical/sexual motivation for marrying/dating a younger partner.

As long as it's legal, practical/viable and non-expolitative, I can't see anything wrong. You should be your own judge.

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HAPPY 2001 !
Alan London

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My ex was 29 and im 16, a lot of people would say he was a perv, but it wasnt like that at all, i wasnt bothered by his age one bit, just seemed to be other people, he was a sexy basta*d, great in bed, funny, smart and we were good friends, he ended up to be a bit of a player and i sometimes think maybe he took advantage cos he was older than me and thought hed get away with it and that id take him back but he was wrong!

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