Girl trouble

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I have known this girl on the net for 2 years almost(we use AOL so we talk to each other a LOT), and I think I have fallen for her. I know its only the net, but she writes in pink and its really cute, and also considering we speak like nearly every night, it aint that surprising wot I feel for her. We both have our own "real" mates and things, and I know she has a lot of male admirers + she is a red blooded 14 year old female, of course she is gonna fancy blokes. I know I dont wanna ruin our freindship we have built up over the years, but every time I sign on she is there and my heart beats and beats and beats, it is really scary. She lives in London, I'm up in Aberdeen, but I cant get her off my mind. I dunno wot to do at all. Help !!!!!!

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Hi i'm a newbie too, and thought i wud offer my advice. I thought i fell in love on the net once, but it turned ut just to be a crush. at the time i thought it was really love but the guy lived in the US so my case was really pathetic. I just had to get over it. Neway, if u read my post "unrequited love" im in love with this guy who lives miles away. I'v bin in long distance relationships b4 and they are hard. Do u fink it wud be a gud idea to reveal your true feelins? Has she given any clues to whether she is interested in u in that way? In my case, i fink da guy has gone off me since i told him i liked him. either that or he's playin hard to get lol/ but i dont think so!! Neway hope it works out for you.

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Well she is a right old flirt put it that way lol

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I wouldn't try and get yourself into a relationship as more than friends! Your young and you wont get to see her as often as you would like and that will put strain on your relationship. Its just not worth the hassle no matter how perfect you think she is!

My advice to you is to look closer to home <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

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i once loved someone from the net and she felt the same way but that caused me more pain and suffering and heart ache then i'd ever experienced before or experienced since.

with that type of long distance, particularly at ur age, it'd be hard to keep anything going

but how long have u loved this lass? it might just be something that u get over and still remain friends or it might be something that drives u insane (which i've also had) where u love someone mroe and more but can't touch, hear or even see them. it's wonderful but horrible at the same time.

make up ur mind before u spill the beans

good luck <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

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Girl-From-Mars

i met my ex on the net (see the first loves topic).. but i only talked to him for 3 months before meeting up as friends. that was long distance though, it aint easy, it will cause probs, but we lasted for 16 months and didnt break up coz of the distance. if you think its worth it, go for it.

but as for the friendship angle.. im not really in a position to say at the mo, im still trying to work that out for myself! i have been good friends, best friends even with a few people on the net and never met them or anything (hadnt even seen a pic of one guy)...and i thought it was something more. i did love them, but as friends rather than in love. i know that i was just confusing my feelings for these people (one lived in america too!), and now i am just friends with one of them. but as monkey boy said... theres also the drive you insane thing. you just know them as the way they type, and havent even met them or heard their voice. yet you still have strong feelings about them, and cant do anything about it coz of the distance and all the whole meeting issue. but is it worth risking the friendship, if it does all go wrong? especially if they are a long distance away.

but i wouldnt recommend falling in love on the net. it can be great... but also frustrating, and there are decisions to be made if you want to pursue it. but then again... i think it can work, if both people feel the same way and are willing to try and make it work <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

sorry if this hasnt been totally relevant to your question.. i went off on one! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

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Former Member

U will never know unless you ask her straight out. But are you sure a long distance relationship will work? Especially at that distance and with a girl who is probably a lot more immature than yourself if she is only 14. (Before I cause an outcry I am sure there are exceptions!)
You mentioned the flirting, this isnt always a sure sign of someone liking you in that way, my friend Louise is one of the most attractive girls in college, she flirts with me and I flirt with her, but she doesn't want to go out with me because she feels she isnt ready for a relationship (she has never had a bf!), and she doesn't want it to ruin our friendship, plus I am in a long term relationship anyway, which means other girls are off limits. This maybe your net buddy's reaction as well, she may value you more as a friend than a bf.

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This girl is only 14 and hasn't grown up yet! When she leaves high school and goes to college don't you think it would be hard to maintain a stable relationship. She is going to want to date guys near her. Long distance relationships DON'T work especially at your age! Sorry to be blunt but the chances are very slim! Just try and stay friends!

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Girl-From-Mars

ok ive changed my mind... sometimes its better just to shut up coz it just messes things up, and things arent always what they seem. and it just causes a friendship to get dented at the very least, and it backfires. even if you think you're very sure of her feelings. not always the case, they might be just messing around or something that is very hard to put into words but basically they have feelings for you, just not exactly the feelings youd want them to have. which i guess is why you might get the wrong impression. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/rolleyes.gif"&gt; . sorry. just thought id share my experience with you.

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Yeah I wanna b mates with her. She left a message sayin I was special to her and that i should never forget that. I definetly wanna b mates with her, nothin else. In fact, I got a good mind to link her to this site. No infact then she might kill me !!!

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I have that with this girl on the net as well. Well i met her in menorca on my hols and we clicked. At first i was nearly obsessed i dare say, and i said i will come and visit her but then i realised there is no point. she is a VERY attractive girl and i love talking to her but i have tried to not like her as it will just cause me heartache. Have u met her before? its great u have that special relationship, but if its not working out, ill contact her for u! only kiddin. But seriously i hate to say this but it wont work and u will never be able to see her, and at 14 u have along time till u both move away from home so by the time uni comes around u will prob both have partners and wont be interested. dont cause yourself the pain and the hassle!

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Originally posted by chrishot4u:
But seriously i hate to say this but it wont work and u will never be able to see her, and at 14 u have along time till u both move away from home so by the time uni comes around u will prob both have partners and wont be interested. dont cause yourself the pain and the hassle!

I told you this before, but you're so romantic <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt; Actually, my friend's younger sister met a lad she was talking to over the internet, pretty bloody dangerous but hey, she's done it now. It turned out he only lived a few miles away, they started going out for real, were together for 4 or 5 months until he moved. Can happen. Unusual though.

*|* Chica *|*

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