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Hi everyone <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif">,
I need your advice on something so please help!
I was out with my mates last night(i was falling about the place,with my sore toe)!
I've been friends with this guy for a while now and i really like him, but thing is he's friends with the guy i was suppose to be on a date before i injured my toe(do'h)! We were all out last night when the guy i like asked me out in frount off the guy that likes me! He was upset about this!I dont want to choose cause i dont want to hurt anyone, but i need a boyfriend, i've not had one for......too long!!!
So what do you lot think??
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Now that's a dilly of a pickle. In this situation most people would say "go out with the one who asked you out". And usually this would be right. But look at it from this perspective, he must be a real heartless bastard to ask you out in fron of his mate! If they are mates then he probably knew that the other one (your date) liked you but didnt have the courage to ask you out. Do you really want to go out with someone who treats his own mates like pieces of shit? And the chances are he already knew that you liked him so he thought to himself "hmm, easy shag tonight". Stay with the one you were origianally with and see what happens, as he is obviously the least bastardly of the 2.
i think when you go out with who ever likes you the most you sometimes end up hating them because they are not rally who you want to be with,
yo uget annoyed at little things that they do and say and you might even end up cheating on them with someone else, most likely the one you like the most.
I'd say go for the one you feel most comfortable with and the one that you sorta connect with the most.
Don't just go out with one of them because you want a boyf, make sure it's him you like, get to know him etc. Unless you like heartless bastards?! Just make sure he pays when you go out, and if he gets fresh then slap him and call him Nancy. Works like a charm.
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Who'd you do that to?
I didn't lose my mind, it was mine to give away.
It's better to regret things you've done than things you haven't.
Back in June i met a bunch of guys when i woz wit a few of my mates. We exchanged numbers etc & kept in contact. I really liked one of them (Tom) but i wasn't sure if he liked me & none of his mates knew either, then one day Tom's mate Chris asked me out even though he knew i liked Tom........this is gonna sound really bad but i didn't fancy Chris @ all but still went out wit him coz i knew it would keep me in contact wit Tom & i'd been single 4 a while.
Then a few weeks later Chris tells me that Tom fancies me & woz really upset about me & Chris being 2gether.
This upset me as i REALLY liked Tom so i ended it wit Chris........the very same day Tom asked me out & i said yes.....we had been goin out for 5 months till the other day when we split up but that has nothing 2 do wit this!
Wot i'm basically trying 2 say is DON'T go out wit sum1 just coz ur fed up of being single......it never works unless u actually like them in the 1st place & u could end up hurting others as well!
I wish u luck! XxX
irrelvant, sorry.
It's better to regret things you've done than things you haven't.
OK I don't want to start an argument here but equal rights & all that. Why should they guy always pay? Yes if I took a girl out I would pay for her ticket at the movies etc but I'd be a bit annoyed if I had to pay for EVERYTHING! Sorry but I get a little annoyed by the fact that women cry out about equal rights and they still insist that guys pay for everything.
OK rant over <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif">
Don't take life seriously because you can't come out of it alive
Broken Heart...I have issues. Leave me alone.
Are the guys mates? Coz if they are then i think that the one that actually asked u out could b a bit of a wnker 2 do dat 2 his friend. However, if he liked u enuf 2 ask u out, and hurt his friend then he must like u a lot, and if u like him then i say go 4 it. Especially if u dont even like the other one that likes u. U can't help ur feelins rite? If the other 1 is ur frend tho, and u dont wana hurt him, then if mite b a bit tuf. he'd probably be hurt if u go out wiv da other guy. tell us what happens!
OK sorry
Don't take life seriously because you can't come out of it alive
if you go out with his mate now and then decide you want guy no1 after all, guy no1 probably wont think much of you because at the end of the day you were dating him first and he may think that you are a bit of a slapper to go off with his mate then decide you want him again,
just another thing i think you need to think about b4 you make a decision.
Good Luck!
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if you go out with his mate now and then decide you want guy no1 after all, guy no1 probably wont think much of you because at the end of the day you were dating him first and he may think that you are a bit of a slapper to go off with his mate then decide you want him again,
just another thing i think you need to think about b4 you make a decision.
Good Luck!
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