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Have you ever cheated?
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probably been asked a million times before, but how many people have actually cheated on their partners?
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Wouldnt cheat on my b.f now tho,
Ive got together with someone whilst he was seeing someone else though as in been the person hes cheating with not on!
Yep me too, not something I was ever too proud of. Me head was messed up at that time.
I have cheated, but come on I was 15. I was only in a semi-serious relationship which meant I was seein him for more than a month at that age and I met another guy who was cute, I was drunk so I snogged him. That's it though! I did tell him in the end and he forgive me. Bless his little heart... hehe
in my youth, i kissed a couple of guys when i was seeing some guy, but i've never cheated on a proper boyfriend, and i've never slept with someone else while i was with someone.
what's the point of being in a relationship if you're gonna cheat? surely being single would suit you better? don't understand it.
i agree, i dont understand 'open relationships' as well.
i have never and will never cheat on anyone. i've been the guy someone cheated with, but it was only a kiss. to me, kissing is still cheating, because it is an intimate act between two people.
One of my mates has never ever not cheated though...at the height of it she was living with her boyfriend at uni whilst having a fiance at home.:eek2:
When I started seeing my current fella, I was having a bit of a casual "thing" with a friend...and they kind of overlapped. It's caused a few bust-ups between them (they're friends by association really) and between me and my boyfriend, but I don't think I did anything wrong. Like the previous poster, I would never do anything now that we're in a relationship. At the time, bad as it sounds, I was just fooling around with both of them...either of them could have become my "boyfriend", so whilst that might say something about my morals, I don't think I'd classify it as cheating per se.
In the past I've been seeing a boy and kissed someone else...but more often than not they'd done the same. In the world of 15/16 year olds I don't think it amounts to much, well it didn't to us anyway...it was all just messing about. I've grown up now. Well, am in the process of :rolleyes:
But noooo, I couldn't! Not now, I'm far too happy! Doesn't stop me looking at other lads though - the world seems to have populated with fit lads since I've been with my man.
ALWAYS happens. Bloody sod's law. >:|
Cut my balls off at once.
And no, I wouldn't do it. It'd be the last thing I'd do;)
Was that the gf of 6 weeks or the one of 2 months?
I mean cheating as in kissing someone else while I was seeing someone.
I don't think that I'd ever do it again though
so yes, ive cheated, but no, i will never do it again. Ive seen and felt the pain so....
I don't agree at all. Everyone is responsible for their own actions. And it doesn't just happen. Nobody ever just suddenly found themselves snogging someone else whilst, strangely, mere moments before they were mulling over what to have for dinner, for example. No. What usually happens is that people play flirty little games and at multiple points decide to carry on with what they're doing and to hell with the consequences, even if it does go further than they know it should. People cross the line. That's what happens. Saying it just happens is an excuse people make to justify their own behaviour to themselves and make it seem less wrong.
ETA: Never have and never will. And yes, I DO know this for a fact.
You can't say for certain, that you'll defintely not cheat as you don't know what situation you may be put in say next week, next year or even in 5 years time.
As I said before yes you'd like to think you won't cheat but you don't know what your future may hold.
I do agree, although I don't think anyone who hasn't cheated before is going to be willing to face the idea that they may face the dilemma in the future. Basically because they haven't crossed that bridge yet...they can't empathise til they have, and of course they may never.
Miffy, I think it's said best as - To err is Human, To forgive is Divine. People make mistakes, and I'm sure no one here is boasting about the fact that they've cheated in the past. And I think there are sometimes situations that escalate, ending up with people doing things they never set out to do, and hurting people they'd do anything to protect. It happens, such is life...people grow up, perhaps feel the fall out from cheating themselves, and change their ways.
I'm totally with Miffy on this one... I really don't buy the excuse that it 'just happens' at all... there is never a point where you no longer own your own mind unless there are serious problems elsewhere. And i can seriously say that I will never ever cheat on someone, as like I mentioned before, I believe that it is one of the most damaging things you can do to someone's self esteem (as so many posts on here have verified), and i would never allow myself to get into the kind of situation where I would be tempted to cheat on someone.
Look, I'm not making excuses for people who do cheat... I'm trying to be a bit more open minded in understanding sometimes people can't help, but find themselves in a situation were they fall for someone else, need it be just lust/ love, whatever, whilst they are suppose to be in a relationship. It's not like when people in a relationship, plan to cheat or are even want to be unfaithful... so yes, sometimes it just happens.