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I'm this really shy guy in year 11 (I'm 15 now but will soons be 16), I have never been out with a girl before or kissed. I feel isolated from other people as most people seem to have been out/have a girlfriend/go to partys every weekend and pull.
I find it difficult even just to talk to girls, let along find the courage to ask one out. I did fancy this girl, also very quiet. I think she fancyed me too but she never said anything and I was too shy to say anything either. I don't feel like I have a chance of getting a gf as every girl in my year thinks I'm really quiet and shy and different.
It makes me feel really depressed, I just want to sort out my life.
I find it difficult even just to talk to girls, let along find the courage to ask one out. I did fancy this girl, also very quiet. I think she fancyed me too but she never said anything and I was too shy to say anything either. I don't feel like I have a chance of getting a gf as every girl in my year thinks I'm really quiet and shy and different.
It makes me feel really depressed, I just want to sort out my life.
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Love is the answer,but while you're waiting for the answer,sex raises some pretty good questions.Woodey Allen.
i have come to the conclusion of "what have i got to lose" but it takes time to gain confidence, just take one step at a time. its wont always be like this. i was MEGA shy but im no way near now.
i hope this helps a bit
good luck & dont worry.
I really feel 4 u, trance_mastaz!!
I'm quite easy-going w guys, don't find it hard to talk to them etc - but some of my friends are really shy around them, and they're in the same situation as you.
I think, from my experience of my friends, if u c what I mean, that u shouldn't worry about it - chances are, a lot of girls think you're really sweet but they don't think you're interested!
Try to relax and just treat them as friends - as you would other guys - and they'll appreciate the friendliness. If you can learn to feel more comfortable around girls and more confident, in time you'll prob find it easier to have fun and flirt...
...and believe me it's not all hard work - it's fun too :P !
Hope I helped,
x
Baby
I used to be schizophrenic, but we're OK now...
much appriciated
i realy feel life sucks at the moment but i know i'll get over it.
I'd rather go out with someone shy, than someone who 'goes out every weekened to parties and pulls!'
The hardest thing is actually telling a girl u like that u like them... but if she's worth it u gotta do something! Anyway GIrls neva throw ur affections back in ur face, even if they're not returned she's not gonna be mean about it! I promise (unless u go for the loud, flirty type, in which case she might).
It gets easier from there, i doubt u'd be shy around people u knew really well, so u have to get to know the girl u like -really well, even if it's as a friend first!
xxxxxs
Love looks not with the eyes, but with the mind-
Shakespeare
Cos it wont work if ur not as ur being different people. Relationships only work in the long run if the 2 people r themselves.
As for being nervous around ladies, I tend to be quieter around ladies than gents - they tend to have a calming effect on me.
I really in no position to lecture here, 'cause I don't have a huge amount of experience, but my one piece of advice would be this: To thine own self be true. You can't act the part of someone else for your entire life; you have to be yourself and roll with it.
Not much help, I know. Sorry.
Just in case anyone is interested there is a good book called 'Dare to connect' by Susan Jeffers that is really helpful in teaching folks how to make friends etc.
I used to be a right weed when it came to blokes but I gained confidence with time. Like they've all said- be yourself and just make friends to start with-the rest will follow.
Good Luck xx