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Should I finish it?

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
I've been with my g.friend for Nearly 8 months now, we were getting on great and I loved her to bitz but......

I've been going out loades at the wknd's and getting really tempted by other girls and my g.friends really bugging me latley.

She keeps on snapping at me, moaning that I never see her, but she is madly in love with me (So her and her and all mine/her friends keep saying) and I no that deep down.

My friends say to stay with her because I'll never find another girl like her.

But I'm confused PLEASE HELP!!!!

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    You say you love her to bits But i if you do why would you wana split up. Take some time to think about your feelings.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Firstly, she is your gf, and it's up to you what you do, don't do something just because your friends have advised you to.
    She loves you - so you'd obviously hurt her if you finished with her, maybe you could try going round to hers instead of going out a few times. I suspect she's only complaining that she doesn't see you enough because she's worried that you might be thinking the way you are because of your going out all the time.
    Maybe take some time to tell her you do love her (if you do). If you're not sure if you do or not, just leave things a while, tell her you need some time and space, but don't see that as an excuse to find someone else in the mean time.
    It's what you want remember.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    If deep down u know u love her then theres no questioning about it. So if u do feel u could move on u need to think long and hard. Its no good you staying with her simply coz u know she loves u or else you'll be in a commitment which will just become harder to end everyday more you're together, yet u know u have to move on coz its not forever. <IMG SRC="frown.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I agree with SeaShihtzu... first spend some time with her and see if you feel the same way. Why doesn't she come with you when you go out on the weekends? Is it because you really don't want her there or because she doesn't want to come (although it sounds like she is really looking for some time with you).

    Sit down and think about the relationship- what do you like about it, what do you not like about it? Can you really see yourself with this girl a couple years down the road?

    Then talk to her about it and tell her what you're thinking. There's nothing worse than if you just went and broke up with her and she has no warning. If there are things that you want changed in the relationship, tell her what they are and see how those changes make you feel.

    But keep yourself open to the idea that you can break up with her. Too many times people feel they are trapped in relationships just because they've been together for so long. It's hard to break up but sometimes doing it right away rather than post-poning it is the best decision you can make.

    Keep smiling novakovino!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    its a fact that guys can suddenly change from one minute being really close to someone and think that they are the only person for them and then suddenly want some space and freedom for a while - this is when temptation kicks in. this is probably how you are feeling, and sooner or later you will realise how much you do actually like your girlfriend. i don't know all the facts so don't take my word for it, but in 99% of relationships, the guy will often behave like an elastic band (don't laugh!!) i.e. being all tightly coiled and into the relationship, then wanting to stretch away and loosen up the next, then ping back to all coiled up.

    hope it makes some sense. i am off to retrieve my sanity.

    good luck! sponge xxx <IMG SRC="tongue.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Stay wit her u greedy bastard every girl will moan but its only bcoz she loves u... if u go out wit other girls it wont b the same and u know it...it wont last either. So stay with her and dont b tempted coz satan will always come to tempt u wen u least expect it.. resist repent wateva that means...

    ~Darkness~
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    And in English?

    I think the phrase is better the devil you know, etc.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Spend more time with her before you decide anything. She's obviously unhappy at the moment - how about compromising and going out with your mates some nights, staying with her others. You say that you 'loved her'...do you love her now?
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