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Yet again thinking of him (ex)
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Why am I thinking Im not over my ex. Went out with a guy today an yea I think I may have even spoke about my ex at lunch to this other guy one of my mates. I mean I want to forget him but to me he still seems perfect. Broke up in March. Soooo annoying. Still don't think I have had a day where I don't think of him.
But yeah Im lonely now an just think it would be nice to have someone.
But yeah Im lonely now an just think it would be nice to have someone.
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grrrr...i hate ex's.
-I hate about him
-Why he isnt good enough for me
-The little things that bugged me about him
Yeah it is pessimistic but in a time of breaking up, desperate times call for desperate measures. I would suggest writing specific things down instead of saying like "he was a jerk to me", so specifically say "When he told me that he knew he could do better than me." (like things that will trigger all the emotions you were feeling at that moment) they can even be little things that just pissed you off (even though they were minor things) for ex. I wrote down how my ex showed all his friends the dirty pictures we took together and how he found out my dad died and wouldnt talk to me for months when I needed comforting then called me up 3 months later acting like it was no big deal. After I had numerous pages on why I cant stand my ex, I went searching on the internet for quotes about getting over the relationship and just inspiration quotes. Here are a few
"The best way to mend a broken heart is time and girlfriends"-Gwyneth Paltrow
Letting go does not mean giving up, but accepting that there are things that cannot be.
Its when you snag your hand on a rusty nail that you realize....life sucks!! but regardless of the pain, you won't bleed forever.
If you live in the past, the present will become it and the future will NEVER change.
I cried today, not because I loved you or even missed you, but because I realize I'm going to be fine without you. **
Think ahead now....its 2009m and you're still scared to leave this guy-He is still stringing you along, promising nothing but his body, scary thought huh? When you're tempted to fall back into his bed or call him, remind yourself "2009...2009??NO WAY"
We must get hurt in order to grow. We must fail in order to know. Sometimes our visions clear only after our eyes are washed away with tears.
(the last words I've said to my ex were) Some people are just not meant to be in your life, no matter how much you want them to be.
A woman has got to love a bad man once or twice in her life to be thankful for a good one.
And in the words of my fav. SATC "After all, computers crash, people die, relationships fall apart. The best we can do is breathe and reboot"
then I wrote down a bunch of songs that I should listen to when I think about calling him or going to hang out with him.
like ...... Bad Religion- 1000 memories
Christina Aguilera- Fighter
Mary J. Blige- Promises
Jojo- Get Out (Leave)
Britney Spears- Stronger
and the most recent song that I've become quite fond of from seeing it in Young & Sexy's sig is Will Young- Stronger
Ok, I'm done blabbin on but here's a really good quote to always remember .....
"Never give up what you want most for what you want at the moment"
Even if it was a special necklace and you're still friends, you shouldn't wear it. Just my personal opinion...
I understand how you feel angel, hope it turns up
How can you move on if you still feel like that?
you can't
Im over her anyway but the pictures still mean a lot to me.
And surely you both have things from your exs that you wanna keep?
I only split from my boyfriend of five years about 7 weeks ago and I put all the pictures of him/us in a big box because I didn't want to be reminded of what I yearned for. Yes, I have feelings for him, but they're feelings of friendship rather than me wanting him to be my boyfriend again. The pictures don't mean much to me, it is the memories in my head that will live forever. And yes, I have things I want to keep because they're useful! In his time he bought be a set of shelves (I need those to keep my books on!), a desk chair (I need that to sit on), and various CDs but I don't link those with him because I can easily forget he bought me them. The ring he bought me I no longer wear because it doesn't mean anything anymore - it was a symbol of love, a love that no longer exists in the same form.
I only keep a few keepsakes from relationships. A few letters, maybe a valentines/birthday card, an odd small present, and put them in an envelope, seal it, and tuck it away somewhere. I only have a few photos in obscure folders on the PC, and can't remember the last time I looked at them.
You should copy and paste Blnde_BombShell's reply, and read it whenever you think you're missing him.
As Bumblebee has proved (from reading her other posts), you can move on, start dating, seeing other people, and it helps.
Don't, whatever you do, as you were thinking on another thread, ever sleep with him. He doesn't love you anymore, and will only use you. Don't give him the satisfaction. Put those pictures, trinkets, tokens, letters, etc, into a box, and move on.
She will more than likely be pissed off, but its not like i show everyone my sentimental things. The only other person whos seen them is my best girl mate and thats only because she was there just after my break up. I dont show anybody.
Maybe I just not good at letting go of past an movin on. Not too great at meeting other people outside the group of people I know already. That might change when I turn 18 soon though. Next Sunday.
Thanks for the replys though has been good.
Also I think my feelings of love (in a couple way) are going. I will truely know when I next see him though. I may not be totally over him? Don't know.
Hope your ok when you see him soon, i rekon you will be fine. Just try to have a laugh and act as friends. Its kinda hard as i recently spent a weekend with my ex but you should be ok.