why does he do it

Former Member

ok, me and my ex split up 9 months ago, and im still not over him. i was getting over him until december when he started texting me asking me to get back with him. since then hes asked me loads and i alwys say yes, i try not to but its hard, and he always lets me down <IMG SRC="frown.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> . now hes got a new gf, but hes still texting me every couple of days, just saying hiya or calling me a wnker or something like that, but when i text him back he doesnt reply. i know that hes only doing it so i wont forget him or get over him, theres no other reason for him to do it.........but why, hes getting on with his life with his new gf, so why wont he let me get on with mine? <IMG SRC="mad.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

Former Member

He's obviously not over you either. There is obviously something about you that keeps him interested and keeps bringing him back!

As far as his new girlfriend is concerned, He want's to have his cake and eat it as well

Forget about him! Get yourself a decent bloke!
Stop saying YES to him as well. and stop replying to his text's.

Just my opinion anyway!

Former Member

I agree with mort. However your ex just sounds like a sadistic, block his phone number, if you could find his new gf i would say foward them to her but that would be being just as bad.

Former Member

Sounds like he is one of those blokes who doesn't really want you himself but nobody else can have you either. It's an ego boost for him each time you reply to his messages. I know it's hard but you have to stop doing it. There's plenty of nice guys out there ... well, so I've been told anyway .... so forget about this tosser and just move on. xxx

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As hard as it may seem tell him to go and get fu#*ed, and don't reply when he sends you messages, cause he'll wonder why you don't message him back. First try this, don't message him back for a while and he'll probably ring you cause he's wondering why you don't then you can tell him to get lost, another thing you can do is, send him a message saying This is her boyfriend, i've seen you messages and if you keep doing it, i'll hunt you down, and that wont lead to something good. I know you'll be bullshitting but you dont need people like him in your life

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he still likes u i think that this new g/f is just to try and prove to u that he can live with out u but if he is still txting then it means he cant if u no wot i mean change ur number and tell him where to go tell him that if he txts u again that ur going to tell his new g/f he should stop but if he dont then change number


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Former Member

thanx for all your suggestions. i always do try not to reply to his msgs, but its so hard. i think his gf knows that he texts me though, cos hes text me off her phone a few times. hes such a tosser, but i want him back so much.

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ok, ive tried really hard to ignore his messages, but it doesnt seem to be working, infact it seems to have made him worse. now he is constantly sending me messages calling me a slag or a dirty slut, i ignored him at first, then i told him to piss off, then he started being nice to me again.
im now ignoring him, and hes back to sending abusive messages. any ideas what to do?????? i dont wanna change my number.

Former Member

Kick him in the nuts!!!! He's a proper wanker. Sounds to me like he's a big attention seeker, and seeing as your ignoring him he's resorting to obsenities to get your attention. Carry on ignoring him, if that doesn't work then I'd change my number.

Former Member

Originally posted by dizzy blonde babe:
<STRONG>ok, ive tried really hard to ignore his messages, but it doesnt seem to be working, infact it seems to have made him worse. now he is constantly sending me messages calling me a slag or a dirty slut, i ignored him at first, then i told him to piss off, then he started being nice to me again.
im now ignoring him, and hes back to sending abusive messages. any ideas what to do?????? i dont wanna change my number.</STRONG>

Man, this bloke sounds like a tosser. Why does he feel he is in any way entitled to call you a dirty slut???

He's obviously a complete asshole, and his behaviour proves that. Unfortunately unless you can just ignore the messages, you may well have to change your number. At least that way you are guaranteed to be hassle-free!!

Hope that helps.

Former Member

it's a shame you can't block knobheads like that from your phone.
all you can really do is carry on ignoring his messages. aslong as you don't see him he can't really do anything else about it.
as for forgetting about him, you need to find yourself someone new. then you don't need to think about him at all.

Former Member

thats not all hes done. we split up over a silly argument and were about to get back together. then i found out i was pregnant so he decided he didnt want anything to do with me. when a few weeks later he found out that id had a miscarriage, he asked me to get back with him.

Former Member

Hey, this guy is a complete and utter looser. Anyone who really cared about you wouldn't be breaking up with you the minute they found out you were pregnant. Keep clear of him, and think of it as your lucky escape. Look forwards, not back.

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ok its been a while now since he last text me, but last night he text me again asking if we could be friends, so i said yes.

hes now asked me to go out with him and his girlfriend one night. i said no, i didnt give him the reason, which is that i couldnt handle seeing him with someone else.

do you think that he really wants to be friends, or do you think theres something going on? have i made the right choice saying that we can be friends? <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

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Hey, Yeh i do think you did the right thing saying no to going..for the simple reason it wont do you any good and wont make you move on with your life like he has done..But definately stay friends..I think thats best. Sorry if this hasn't been any help <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

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he sent me another message last night, sayin that even though hes with his girlfriend he still loves me. i said he shouldnt say that stuff cos hes with his gf. do you think he meant it or is he just trying to keep me interested so that i cant move on??

Former Member

he sooo aint ova u n stil wants u in some sorta way but he's not sure wetha he wants 2 commit himslef hes confused luv, K XxX <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

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he is not worth your time <IMG SRC="mad.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

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the other day he sent me a message saying "i wanna tell you something, im with nat (his new gf) but i still like you anf love you.

last night i sent him a message saying that i still love him, and he replied by telling me to fuck off and that he wasnt interested cos hes with nat <IMG SRC="mad.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> . he then sent me one saying that i shouldnt send him any more messages.

it really hurts me when he does things like that. he did the same a couple of months ago when he text me asking me to get back with him then when i said yes he said haha dont think so!

what is he playing at? why is he saying one thing one minute and another the next?? hes really pissing me off now! <IMG SRC="mad.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
how can i deal with this so i can find out the truth??

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he just sent me a message saying "nat said dont text me again cos shes sick of you" i hate him so much! he is usually the first one to text me so i dont know hes on about, and ive not text him since i told him to grow up when he sent me that message telling me to fuck off. what do i do?