Now What....?

Former Member

Well it took me quite a while to figure all this out, and im still not very sure, but anyways i will give it a go...

I have this close friend, call Rachel, we got an great together, had a right riot, i always wanted to ask her out and make it offical but i never pluked up enough curage to do it (i know, i know). She has now met this guy, but he is only in it for the sex, but she realy realy likes him ( you get where im going dont you), should i tell her or leave it bee? I think am gona leave but what do you think? I still have strong feelings for her and i dont want to hurt her.

Thanx for any help,

Mike...

Former Member

hmmm. tricky. how serious are things between rachel and this guy? and how long have they been going out for? if she's seriously committed to the relationship, then she may well take it badly if you try and talk her out of it. however, if this is a fairly recent thing, then perhaps there is still something you can do.

i think that expressing your disapproval of her choice of man might be a possible option, instead of going for the full whammy of expressing your own feelings. tell her you think he's a piece of shit that's using her for sex. if she sticks by him, then okay, that's tough. but if he really is like that, they may split up, and she'll come running back. or, you might convince her to ditch him, then i guess you just have to take things step-by-step. rushing things will make it seem like you were maliciously trying to prise them apart. so take things slow - you sound like the kind of chap that has a fair bit of patience.

if you honestly think that its in her best interest not to be with this guy, then tell ehr. she'll respect you in the long run.

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Nolite te bastardes carborundorum

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I think your right, i may still have feelings for her but i would never split them up just for my own ends, its quite a recent thinkg, so i think im gona take your advice,

Thanx very much,

Ally, as mad as a scotts dog.... <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

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Originally posted by Blue-Carrots:
should i tell her or leave it bee?

Leave it bee.