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how can i get my bf to go to the formal wif me
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hey everyone, how r u all?
plz help me out!
i hav a formal in september and i asked my bf to go to the formal wif me, but he said no. it was all kinda planed out at the end of last yr that we were goin to go to the formal wif each other. but the other day wen i asked him when his formal, he said he didnt no and that he didnt care coz he doesnt like formals and his not goin
so i was like ok thats fine its his formal and if he doesnt want to go then its fine wif me. and a couple of days later i was lik do u wanna go to the formal wif me n he was lik i told u i dont lik formals. i reali wanna go to the formal and i reali wanna go wif him. wat am i goin to do? can some help me out plz?
plz help me out!
i hav a formal in september and i asked my bf to go to the formal wif me, but he said no. it was all kinda planed out at the end of last yr that we were goin to go to the formal wif each other. but the other day wen i asked him when his formal, he said he didnt no and that he didnt care coz he doesnt like formals and his not goin
so i was like ok thats fine its his formal and if he doesnt want to go then its fine wif me. and a couple of days later i was lik do u wanna go to the formal wif me n he was lik i told u i dont lik formals. i reali wanna go to the formal and i reali wanna go wif him. wat am i goin to do? can some help me out plz? 0
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a formal is like a prom where you dress up in formal dresses and suits.
i have always wanted to go to a formal. at the end of last year my boyfriend and i were talkin about this years formal. and we were talk about how great it is goin to be and i told him how much goin to a formal would mean to me. so then we agreed to go to each others formal this year (we go to different schools and most year 12 have formals). but early this year i asked him whens his formal and he said he doesnt no and he doesnt care because he doesnt like formals and his not goin to go. so i was like ok thats fine, its his formal and is choice. then a couple of days later i found out when our (my schools formal) is, so that night i called my boyfriend and asked him to go to my formal with me and he said he has already told me he doesnt like formals and his not goin to any of them. we've had many fight over this topic and he still doesnt want to go. he knows how much this formal means to me (especially going with him) and his still not going to go. grrrr :mad:
sorry about before
Aaaaaaahhhhh...I see now
As Infinate said, just tell him it is important that he is there. My boyfriend didnt come to my prom for one reason or another. I went on my own, had a fantastic time. But I made sure he knew that I really wanted him there. And maaaaaan does he feel guilty about it now.
but the thing is all my friends are goin with a date and if i dont go with a date i know i will feel kind of left out, especially when my friends are bring their boyfriends (you know what i mean;)). like moonshine said "man does he feel guilty now", lol , well my bf does already feel guilty but that isnt goin to change his mind. he asked me to stop talkin about it with him because it upsets him and makes him feel guilty.
i mean i luv the guy and every thing but...i just dont know what to do with him sometimes
:mad: grrrrrrrrrrrr
Simple.
Clarify to your boyfriend that it's just platonic, ie. you're just taking a male friend and it doesn't mean anything, but that you really want to go with a date, not just on your own or with friends. He knows that you really wanted him to go, so in all fairness he couldn't really complain. But it would make him think twice about not coming, and it would also mean you'd enjoy the ball a lot more!
I'm sure you have a male friend who wouldn't mind accompanying you for a laugh?
I`m not sure I agree. I mean, would it really kill him to go, knowing it`s important to her? It`s ONE night of his life.
He probably has a reason, but he`s not telling you what it is. I agree, take another bloke.
I've never gone to a formal before - I've done disco things from primary/secondary school, and the kind of summer ball from highschool but I didn't really enjoy them.
The main reason I don't like going is that I don't enjoy dressing up smartly and pretending to be something I'm not. Why should I put a suit on and pretend that I should be respected, when I'd be the first guy in a queue to sell cigarettes to little kids. (Well I don't do that, but it's an expression).
Maybe he's similar - he doesn't feel like wearing a suit is him. Also, can he dance? I can't dance too well (:() so don't enjoy the night sitting doing nowt.
If he doesn't want to go, leave him. Just make sure he knows you're upset and maybe he'll turn up out of the blue
If he can't offer you an explanation as to why he doesn't want to go with you, you don't owe him any explanation as to why you're taking another guy....
Perhaps he doesn't want to go and be gawped at by people he doesn't even know? It would take some nerves to go to another school's formal. There is always the risk of him being left alone whilst you talk to other people, and thr questioning glances of people he doesn't know.
Also, perhaps he doesn't like them because he doesn't want to dress and act a certain way?
I don't know.. that's just what would run through my ehad. Oh and also if I went to one of those things I wouldn't be able to afford it - all the suits, limos, everything!
LOL
if i go to the formal with my bf we wouldnt arrive at the formal in suits and limos! haha
LOL
im not one of the fancy chicks thats just wanna dress up (well...i do like dressing up) and you know what i mean...hopefully...
for those fancy chicks out there that do like dressing up, don't take what i said the wrong way plz...
find a gay guy safe bet he'll hve to trust you
unless your bf got into wen he came, he wont be having a good time, so some other comapny could be a good idea
very true too i feel like that and im not tall nor am i that stunning or have great hair or are built, and i dont normally ooze self confidence, its why i didnt go my uni ball and partly why i spent that weekend going out to brighton meeting ladies