eek! I need help

Former Member

I've been with my boyfriend for just over a year. We've been really close but in january he went abroad. Some really crappy stuff happened to him, so he had to come back.

Coz of all the stuff that happened to him he really changed and so, in my eyes, did our relationship.

Last month he went back abroad and he's going for 3 months, but the problem is that
a) my feelings for him have changed
b) I fancy someone I work with

I suggested to my boyf that we go on a break and start afresh when he comes back, but he got really upset, and so did I and changd my mind so we're still together.

Basically, what do I do? <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> I don't feel as much for him as I used to and in a way I smeimes think he's having too much fun to remember me, and I want to shag someone I work with.

Help....advice please!

Thank you
xxx

Former Member

The worst thng to do would be to cheat just for sexual gratification, never do that!!!

Any broader definition of crappy stuff?

Former Member

if you dont want to be with him any more then teres obviously no point waiting for three months to break up with him. id get it done straight away cos the longer you leave it the harder it will be.

Former Member

UR basically not with him now for the same reasons that you used to be-- can you see you guys being together in the future?? if not, it aint worth waiting while he keeps going away-- break it off, and if its meant to be you can try again when he gets back-- dont stay with him just because he makes you feel guilty about tryin to move apart-- u will end up regretting it-- easier to do it now than later down the line

Former Member

ok, well I wouldn't want to cheat on him...I've never cheated on anyone, I don't think its right. but its really hard to keep saying no to this guy I work with coz I don't really wanna be saying no.

Its hard to work out what I really feel for my boyf coz he's so far away and I haven't spoken to him in weeks, we just email each other. I did try to break it up and start again when he gets back but I can't upset him like that, he thinx nothing's changed between us.
I don't wanna break up with him and find I've made a mistake but I don't wanna stay with him and end up breaking up as soon as he gets back

Crappy stuff=he got mugged of all of his possessions.
oooo and did I mention the guy I work with has a girlfriend?

what a tangled web we weave. I'm a soap opera.

Former Member

he's got a gf?? makes it a bit different-- is he comin on2 you?? ur bf sounds cool- u wouldnt still be with him if he wasnt-- ur better stickin with him and finalising ur views on him b4 makin any rash decisions- just wait a little xx

Former Member

ah, you're a wise one kinky wizard! you're probably right!

yeah the one at work does come on 2 me...all the time!! he's very persistant.

this is gonna make me seem like such a shallow bitch, but to be truly honest I can't stand men with long hair and my boyfriend has been growing his....and its gonna be even longer by the time he gets back. it really doesn't suit him and he, erm, hasn't quite got the hang of shampooing regularly yet.

despite the hair tho, I don't wanna make rash decisions...its just hard to keep saying no the one at work...he knows I like him.