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My sister and her husband have been married for over nine years. THey have 2 wee boys aged 5 & 3 and she is almost 7 months pregnant. But at the weekend the bastard left her for some woman he meet on the internet. He didn't sit down and talk about it or anything just took a bag and left when she confronted him about it. No-one knows where he is now not even his parents.

They had sold their house and were due to move out soon & suppposed to be signing the final papers for their new house today but she can't cuz she needs his signature so she might end up losing her new house leaving her with no house, two kids and heavily pregnant <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif">. He also ran up huge bills phoning this woman and by usuing the internet so now her phone-line has been disconnected. She also found out that he had bought himself a new 'private' mobile so he woudn't get caught but now hes left her in a financial mess....
The oldest boy has always had health problems and has been sick yesterday and today and keeps asking his mammy why his daddy left and is it his fault, it wuz the younger boys birthday on sunday but no phone-call or card or anything. Shes stayin with us at the min and im supposed to be revising for my GCSE's but I just can't this whole thing has just left me dumbfounded.

I really did care about this man and we treated him as part of the family and i just feel so betrayed and im so worried about my sister and the baby all this stress can't be good for her and the baby's health <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt;

I don't really know if this is the right board or even how i expect u to reply but I just had to get this off my chest cuz i feel like I'm going mad!

Thanx for taking time to read my long and not very well-written post! ~Dreamer

[This message has been edited by ~* Dreamer *~ (edited 21-05-2001).]
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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    awwwwwww that is terrible, i really do sympathise with ur sister and her kids and ur family. i dont really know wot to say apart from be there for ur sister and let her know that she isnt alone. she probably needs ur support right now and even little things like babysitting will be a great help for her. as for ur gcse's, just try ur best to revise and maybe even go to a mates houes to revise if it is too noisy at ur house. good luck and let us know wot happens <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
  • Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    god dreamer thats awful (((((((((((dreamer)))))))))))) <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt;

    i wish i knew what to say... but what can you say to that? it makes you wonder how someone can do that to his wife and his kids. god.... he could at least have sorted it out a bit better though couldnt he <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt; i think you have to just try and concentrate on your gcses as well.... i can imagine how hard it is for you though.. i mean im only having relationship probs at the mo and its bad enough for my a levels. i really hope you get some word back from him soon... im sorry i couldnt be more help <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt; just thought id let you know i read it and im thinking of you and your sister.

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    im really really sorry to hear that Dreamer. it must be hard for u knowing about how your sister has been treated and abandoned. i don't really know what to say.
    right now, there really is very little you can do but ur best. you can curse on the man! be there for your sister and let her know she's not alone and will always have the family and your support. try and make life easier for her like taking the kids out to the park or sometimes babysitting them just so ur sister will have some room to breathe and be on her own to think about things. especially at this time...she will need all the help she can get.

    and im pretty sure the State will help too, im not very sure about the ways though as im not good with laws and society but i don't think ur sister will be left alone to bring up her kids. only a suggestion.

    whatever you do, try not to neglect ur GCSE's either. they are important and u wanna do well whatever u wanna do in the future. u only get one shot at these exams really and u gotta take it and use it well. go to the library to study or study with a friend. she can cheer you up and it will take ur mind off your sister.

    i don't know what else to say. sorry. but i wish u the best of luck.

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