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In love with her but she's engaged to someone else!!!!!
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ok here it is. Im madly in love with a girl, she's 16 but already engaged to another bloke. She's a really good friend & she knows I love her and she says she loves me. I cant handle her situation though, she also knows I dont like her fiance. I dont know why im posting this cos there isnt much people can advise me to do except deal with it!
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In the words of Gary Moore "I found that love is no friend of mine, i should have known time after time"
Dont know why but it sums up how I feel. <IMG SRC="frown.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
If she really liked you she would be with you!
Forget about her and move on. Find a girl who can love you for who you are, and preferably a girl who isn't already taken!
It aint easy to find a girl who loves me for me cos they see me on the outside first! Which aint good.
think you should forget it
I know she loves her fiance more than anything & she also loves me, its not fair on her. its kind of an emotional rolercoaster im on, dont know if she's feeling the same.
I just wanna say I love you, im sorry for everything. xxx
Also, why don't you two discuss this in a less public domain.
In my opinion you can't love more than one person anyway, but AWOL, if you did love her, you would respect her decision and not tell her you loved her, thus complicating things.
I do respect her decision but i've always been told to let people know how I feel about them. I cant do that all the time but if I feel this strongly about someone I think i should tell them & not live a lie.
I have experience of very, very clever people, and I don't think that any of them would be sensible and mature enough to be engaged.
Either blonde isn't just a hair colour is incredibly mature, or she is making a mistake. You know where I stand.
Love is bilateral - between two people. Feelings are euphemistic for virtually everything, let's be clear.
If you're engaged, surely it's love and not feelings? And therefore, it's bilateral. Not more than two people. Not her fiance and you. Or someone else.
She's mature and knows what she's doing? Interesting. What's more interesting is your unconditional support for her engagement to someone that you don't like. Are you sure that you're not just being a little sycophantic?
I believe that I am allowed to pass opinion. I believe that what I have said is not offensive. It is my opinion that you are making a mistake, but since you don't know or care who the hell I am, why does that matter?
You are correct in saying I know nothing about you or your fiance, but I know some basic things;
(1) You're 16
(2) He's older
(3) You write the way you do.
From that, I make my own conclusions. You'll forgive me for doing so, I'm sure, but I do. What you think of them is irrelevant to me, as my thoughts are to you.
I have made no criticism beyond my expression of opinion, I have said nothing about you as a person, only considered your maturity.
If you find it offensive, then I apologise unreservedly, for I do not wish or intend to cause such.
Sorry to agree with him, but he is right - you do seem too immature to get married.
We could be wrong, but it's hardly our fault if we draw conclusions from the evidence in this post.
Go on, prove us wrong...
Am I really that bad?
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*mumbles incoherently and inaudibly...*
I often agree with you DJP, you're not "really that bad", unless I am too <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
Was that better kentish?
If you're happy, then it doesn't matter what we think. And good luck to you if that's what you are going to do.
But, if as shown above, it doesn't matter what we think, then don't get so mad and aggressive when we say something you don't like...
Anyway, let's call an end to this, and move on, we've both accepted it's going nowehere but the Closed Posts home at this rate.
Peace?
*offers to shake hands*
So far, you have given us no indication of how ready you are to get married. You have now managed to construct a sentence (paragraphs will come with practice), but that is not really the problem.
It depends whether you are expecting this marriage to be a life-long thing, or whether it's a fleeting whirlwind of emotion that will fizzle out after a couple of years. The reason we say 16 is too young to get married is experience of "young love". Not many people are ready to commit so young, so we are simply trying to ascertain whether you are ready or not.
Anyway, you should not be discussing this with "awol" in this environment. The fact that you are is another sign of your immaturity.
I say work out your feelings before committing yourself to one person for life.
As for discussing it with awol on here, i dont. Hes said what hes got to say and i've said what i've got to say and as far as im aware we haven't discussed anything between us on here.
Anything i have said here is not to be taken agressively. All punctuation and spelling mistakes are not intentional and i apologise for anything else in advance
*repeatedly*
I will be truthfull in sayin that it upsets me that she's getting married so young & to a guy I dont like but what can i do?! I want her to be happy even if its not with me.
I love her more than anything, i'll never forget her, its not often i get the kind of friendship she gives me from anyone else & hope that we will remain friends for a long time to come.
Good luck with your future 'blonde is not just a hair colour'
I read a post of yours from some time ago referring to you being in love with an older, married woman, with kids?
Now, what the hell is going on???
Blonde is not just a hair colour knows all about her, she's a past love. I still love the woman cos she was my first proper love. But as you noticed, that topic was from some time ago.
So why have a go about that?