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Sorry if I sound ignorant or patroninsing but what do single people do in the evenings?
I was in a relationship for over five years and we've recently spilt. I've found myself with nothing to do. During the week I usually went out with my boyfriend four nights a week and with my friends two nights a week. The other night I spent studying. Now I can still only see my mates those two nights a week (for fear or Simone overload!) so what do I do for the rest of the week?
Sorry I can imagine how stupid this question is, but I'm not used to this, and right now I would like to hear anything that can help me in my quest to feel normal again!
I was in a relationship for over five years and we've recently spilt. I've found myself with nothing to do. During the week I usually went out with my boyfriend four nights a week and with my friends two nights a week. The other night I spent studying. Now I can still only see my mates those two nights a week (for fear or Simone overload!) so what do I do for the rest of the week?
Sorry I can imagine how stupid this question is, but I'm not used to this, and right now I would like to hear anything that can help me in my quest to feel normal again!
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Order yourself a takeaway, sit in front of the TV. Veg out, have a long bath, eat ice cream, whatever!
If you have stuff to do, use the time to get it done, then you have more free time for when your friends are free too.
....Or just sit and talk to people on an internet messageboard
Sit in most nights wishing we had a partner.........
Sorry you broke up by the way, cant be easy to deal with.
ive not got the courage to go out for dinner our out to the pub on my own but cinema, yes, coffee shops, museums, art galleries, mcdonalds ... i dont have many friends so i tend to do alot on my own. i dont mind it either. it means i can do what i want, when i want and how i want
:yes: yup yup.
I used to do that a lot, going out on my own, doing whatever the hell I wanted. now I'm too shy and insecure and paranoid to go out alone
other times I will go to my guilty pleasure of ebay
At least you do go out doing things on your own, which is better than sitting in all the time.
I'm glad I'm not the only one who ends up going to the cinema on their own fairly often. I go about once a month on average to see a film on my own. I try to get people interested at work, but they can never seem to agree on a time or date. So I'd rather go and see it on my own that risk missing seeing it at the cinema.
Cinemaring on your own is not a bad thing IMO. I mean really the only times you talk during a film are at the start during the ads and trailers, during the orange advert to say "MAKE ME BLEEEED" or whatever the funny catchphrase is, and then at the end after it's finished. Aside from that viewing the film at a cinema is not really a talking time, so whilst it might be nice to go with someone else for other reasons I don't think you miss out if you go alone.
As far as other things go, you can go for walks, watch tv, make food, visit your friends, play games, read and sleep.
BUT although you say you can't go out with your friends much more than you used to, I've tended to find that being single means you tend to 'network' a lot more. That is, you'll see your normal friends, but also it becomes more important/interesting to meet new people - so you'll make new friends, and maybe go out with them. Make more of an effort to keep in touch with old friends, be introduced to new people, and try going out with them and broadening your social circle. It's something you don't bother with so much when you're in a relationship, but that's always good to do when you're single!
Hope is deader than dead.
But I try not to think about women often; it's just depressing.
You can have fun on your own, granted you've had a mate before so it won't nessisarily be the same but watch movies, hang out with friends, keep busy. And when you don't want to do all that other stuff just sleep, let your dreams take you to your fantasy. Alas, they are only dreams.
Sure a girlfriend would be nice, probably one of the best things and feelings in the world.
Just chill out and have fun.
I'm 16 and I went out with my boyfriend for a year and 2 months (which is along time when your 16) he was everything to me and when we split up in January, I had nothing to do. As I dont have very good friends and never have, I found it really hard to fill up my time. But now, I still think of all the time I used to spend with my boyfriend, but I enjoy my own company and even went shopping on my own the other day and it was really successful.
Sorry I aint been much help, but just enjoy the time you have on your own cos it wont last forever cos you'll find another partner and you wont have enough time for yourself!
Nooooo eBay is evil! It makes you do strange things...like bidding for something you know you'll never use :rolleyes:
Probably the only way I would win...
I know it sounds like a really cheesy thing to say but you could try an evening class or something. When one of my friends split up with her boyfriend she decided to learn sign language, she really enjoyed it and met some new people. It really does sound like dodgy chat show advice but it worked for her.
In term time I am usually doing uni related work until I go to bed. Or I go out with friends. Go to the cinema. Go shopping (we can do that til late here). Go for walks. Go to pubs. Go to clubs. Go to my friends and just chat about whatever. Go to the students union. Go to dance classes. Phone friends. Shop online. Look at expensive things that I cannot afford online. Look at flights to places that I cannot afford to go online. Accidently buy flights online. Search for random things on e-bay that I have no desire to buy or own (ok maybe that's me cos I'm a little bit odd). Look at jobs online that I might one day be qualified to do. See how many free samples I can blag online. Write letters to people. E-mail people. Chat on msn to people. Have hot chocolate with people. Get into pointless fights about irrelevant things with the people I live with. Watch DVD's. Watch videos. Eat twix bars. And snickers. Make bread. And soup.
Do you never do anything with other friends who are not your current boyfriend?
ha x74564
I had absolutely no intention of buying a flight but instead of typing "cheap CD's" on Google my fingers got confused and typed "cheap flights" and the next thing I knew my debit card details had been entered, I was £620 lighter and had a ticket for a flight to Brazil- to Sao Paulo which by complete coincidence happens to be where my gorgeous (ex)boyfriend lives.
What can I say. Accidents happen.
Make new friends
Do an evening class or throw yourself into a hobby new or neglected.
Exercise
Also learn to enjoy your own company again, be truly selfish
and all the usual suspects: TV, films, books, music, internet
Believe me it gets easier Xx
Is anyone still friends with their ex?
I know people who have stayed friends with their ex and it has worked. I think there is an article on this on another section of this website.
Not even when we share the same friends? Because that would leave one of us without any friends...
You can also look after number one- you can go to sleep when you want to, not when they decide they are tired and turn the light out. You can watch what you like on TV and not have to endure cack like robot wars and dire channel 5 films.
It is hard to adjust, but after a while you appreciate having your own space! I did anyway.
Oh and I'm not friends with any of my exes. I did stay in contact with one for 5 years but I don't know that I would class him as a friend. I'm sure people can manage to do it, but I have tended to end up so hurt at the end of a relationship I can't handle seeing that person. It hurts that someone can be such a big part of your life and then you never see them again, but I've moved on..
I guess it depends how much you are "friends" with that person. In some relationships it's just a boyfriend/girlfriend thing. With others (and I think it is like that for you bumblebee), they are like your best friend, you can talk to them, they know everything about you.
A friendship like that is worth holding onto if you can do it without getting hurt by not being together.