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dont get how he feels, and he plays 2 bloody hard 2 get!

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
right, this guy pulled him 3 times before, and text each other the last 2 weeks, his last text was like i hope i see u on mon(a party last night)

so im there at the party and not so much as a hi, for ages well we didnt go up to each other or make an effort, like an hour later, we walk past each other and hi finally says hi and we start talking i was like u never said hi, and he just replied neither did u, and kissing, but he explains 2 me that he is not a chaser, and i said neither am i, as we where both as stuborn as each other we just sat there waiting 4 each other 2 make a move- hard as it was i was not gonna be the first!

he did eventually and we was together loads throughout the night, and he seemd intrested, i asked him what he was up2 thisweek and he said he was busy, but at the end of the night he was like u will text me wont u, and i was like but i dont get if ur not chasing or not intrested

so how can i play hard 2 get, but still intrested, if i play 2 hard 2 get nothing will happen!

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Why would you want to play hard to get?

    This is a considerate guy. He's not gonna chase you if you don't let him know that you want him to. Its up to you to send him the signals he's waiting for, especially if you want him to come to you.

    Why change him? Just accept him as considerate and not too pushy and if you like him, let him know his attention is welcome. He'll lavish it on you once he's sure I think. He's just a little insecure and unassuming. Many would wish more men were a bit less assuming. <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="smile">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    that makes sence, i told him that he had 2 text me first, which he did on the night, but like i had said at the party that he would have 2 come to mine sometime, and so when i text him back i said so r u still busy all week, and he text back saying well it depends, on what the offer is or something like that

    i sent one back, but i havent the faintest what i said, it must have been about offers, as he put back u tell me, then i replied ooo i cant, im not a chaser but i think u have a good idea!, so now once again the ball is in his court
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Just come right out with it, and make him an offer you can't refuse. What's there to loose? be brave - go and get what you obviously want!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    He likes you, there's no question about that.

    Now about why he seems to be rather lay back, well, he probably doesn't want to scare you off or giving you the impression that he's desperate or something. Things seems to be going slow, but steady as well, right? You do not need to worry, he is interested. Just keep on texting each other from time to time, and maybe go for a cup of coffee (if he is busy, I'm sure he can still spare 30 mins).

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hes interested, very interested. But hes probably a bit shy, and doesnt want to ask you out in case hes not reading the signals right. I know Ive been worried about that before...

    Why do you need to put on the hard to get anyway, it wont make you look like a slut. He wants you, you want him, but if you both mess about waiting for the other to pounce youll lose each other. Just ask him out <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="smile">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by x-rated_rebelgrl:
    <STRONG>so how can i play hard 2 get, but still intrested, if i play 2 hard 2 get nothing will happen!</STRONG>

    simple. just don't play hard to get! why, oh why do women do that and then complain that the bloke isn't making any moves. if a girl gives 'hard to get' messages to me (and many blokes also think the same as me, btw) then i assume she's not interested and move on. why give the impression that you're not interested when you clearly are? it just doesn't make sense! <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    well i txy him, and said what can i offer u 2 get u away from ur busy scheduale, and he said, use ur imagination and then text me bak

    so i said u will have 2 give me some time to think about that, u have any suggestions

    text back was = i arnt going to tell you. you must have some idea

    so i did i ahim and didnt text back, till 8 today, sayin do uwant 2 come 2 mine or pub etc, its 10 now and still no reply <IMG SRC="frown.gif" border="0" ALT="frown">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    awww he text bak n he cant come he said but defo another time and asked how im gonna enterain him!!!

    but i dont know how! i havnt done nething rude b4!!!!

    now my room, with my latest cd doesnt seem good enough
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hey, just be flirty with him. Say youre gonna spend some 'quality' time with him hehe <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by x-rated_rebelgrl:
    <STRONG>awww he text bak n he cant come he said but defo another time and asked how im gonna enterain him!!!

    but i dont know how! i havnt done nething rude b4!!!!

    now my room, with my latest cd doesnt seem good enough</STRONG>

    My advice is to tell him that the way you're going to entertain him is with your charming company. That way you're not making any promises or 'buying' his attention and yet have clearly let him know you'd like to know him better.

    How he responds to that will tell you a lot. If he's only after sex he may be disappointed, but then, so waht. If he's that shallow it's good to disappoint him and you get to find out before he makes you feel cheap etc.

    On the other hand, he may be romantic and say that your company is more than enough of an attraction, in which case, he may well be a 'keeper'. <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="smile">

    All the best.
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