need some advice from u girls

Former Member

hi,

ive been seeing this girl for about a month now, and i really really like her. she knows that i have feelings for her. we have been really close, and are always kissing , holding hands etc.

big problem tho, she has a boyfriend who lives away from home, from a previous holiday romance. and she finds it necessary to remind me of him alot..

today she said that shes warning me that she might just suddenly turn and not wanna hold hands or anythin cause she "loves" this other lad and that she feels guilty sometimes. So i asked her if she was ok ? and she said yeah its fine i dont feel like that now but i sometimes go like that.

i really really like her, and i feel like im gonna get hurt. If i put pressure on her by tellin her how i feel then she'll just walk away from me coz alot of lads have tried that and im trying to be different, so far so good, but theres only so long i can take it for.

any advice much appreciated, whats going on in her head ?! <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

Former Member

I think this girl likes you, but is scared of loosing her other bf at the same time, you need to tell her how you feel, never know she could feel the same g'luck F xx

Former Member

it may sound harsh but u need to tell her to make a decision because in the long term it will do u both good. If you're getting feelings for her you need to know your not going to get hurt and she wont mess u around. You need to ask her what she wants and feels,

Former Member

HI There
I am new here, I wanted to reply.
I think this girl is afraid of losing you, she wants someone close so she chosen you, but she doenst want to lose the other boy.
You have to ask her in her eyes what is wrong with her, and let her make a choice I am sure if she does care she will pick you
Love
Mel

Former Member

Well she's certainly having her cake and eating it. She may well be confused, she may just be taking you for a mug - either way she's two-timing you. Of course, if you put up with it for fear of losing her she doesn't have to choose and she can carry on messing you both around.
If you're happy with that, fine - if you have some self-respect then you'll have to let her know you're not willing to be someone's bit on the side and are deserving of being with someone who can devote their affections to you, and you alone.

Former Member

Originally posted by Miss Quoted:
<STRONG>Well she's certainly having her cake and eating it. She may well be confused, she may just be taking you for a mug - either way she's two-timing you. Of course, if you put up with it for fear of losing her she doesn't have to choose and she can carry on messing you both around.
If you're happy with that, fine - if you have some self-respect then you'll have to let her know you're not willing to be someone's bit on the side and are deserving of being with someone who can devote their affections to you, and you alone.</STRONG>

gotta agree with that.

don't you deserve someone all to yourself?

and I am speaking from experience here.

Former Member

Originally posted by Miss Quoted:
<STRONG>Well she's certainly having her cake and eating it. She may well be confused, she may just be taking you for a mug - either way she's two-timing you. Of course, if you put up with it for fear of losing her she doesn't have to choose and she can carry on messing you both around.
If you're happy with that, fine - if you have some self-respect then you'll have to let her know you're not willing to be someone's bit on the side and are deserving of being with someone who can devote their affections to you, and you alone.</STRONG>

Ditto legal junkie. You're completely being taken for a ride mate, and you are very likely to get hurt.

Former Member

i totally agree with the last 3 responses. you are majorly getting played.