I think i'm gay

Former Member

I am in complete shock here, until the other nite, I thought I was 100% straight, just shows how wrong you can be...

I finshed with my girl on saturday nite, we agreed it wasnt working. I wanted to get rid of my left over feelings (and sum problems I been havin wit my mum), I had a couple of drinks last nite with a mate who happens to be gay. When we walked home, he suddenly made a pass at me (grabbed my bits, and layed one on me). I can honestly say that it was THE best experience of my life, and I have come to relaise that this is what I want from life.

I think in one of my earlier posts, I went on about how ANOTHER guy (yeah I know !!) did something very similar to this to me, but I felt zero sexual chemistry. Well with this guy it was sooo much better.

It was better than ne thing I have ever done with a girl, and now I can c why straight sex (even snoggin) was such an anti-climax for me.

I am feel soooo good about myslef now, I feel like a huge burden has been lifted off my shoulders. At the mo I would still say I'm bi, but i'm like 80-20 towards the gay side of things now.

I know u lot are all broad-minded people, and hopefully will b happy that I have found my new direction (if ya know wot I mean). I just feel refreshed, for the first time in a LONG time.

Former Member

Originally posted by ConfusedMale:
I finshed with my girl on saturday nite, we agreed it wasnt working. I wanted to get rid of my left over feelings (and sum problems I been havin wit my mum), I had a couple of drinks last nite with a mate who happens to be gay. When we walked home, he suddenly made a pass at me (grabbed my bits, and layed one on me). I can honestly say that it was THE best experience of my life, and I have come to relaise that this is what I want from life.
I think in one of my earlier posts, I went on about how ANOTHER guy (yeah I know !!) did something very similar to this to me, but I felt zero sexual chemistry. Well with this guy it was sooo much better.

It was better than ne thing I have ever done with a girl, and now I can c why straight sex (even snoggin) was such an anti-climax for me.

I am feel soooo good about myslef now, I feel like a huge burden has been lifted off my shoulders. At the mo I would still say I'm bi, but i'm like 80-20 towards the gay side of things now.

I know u lot are all broad-minded people, and hopefully will b happy that I have found my new direction (if ya know wot I mean). I just feel refreshed, for the first time in a LONG time.

*thinks*

Right then, congrads on doing the deed as it where, only thing I'd like to add here is perhaps to slow down a touch.

As you've said above you had just split with your girlfriend and had considered yourself striaght before hand, I'm not trying to judge or burst your bubble here, all I'm trying to do is to advise you to slow down a touch and experiment (should you wish to do so) a bit more and explore things so you can clear it all up in your mind a bit better.

The other thing I'd advise is not to go round announcing yourself to everyone before you've had some more experience and are more confident you are happy with your decision.

I do hope you have found yourself and that your happy...

Good luck, lifes great.. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;

Former Member

im so proud of u. that must hav really took guts, i must admit that sometimes i think im straight, but other times i feel like itd b really cool to go with a girl, just to see how it feels. i dont know, i think im about as confused on that as u are, i pretty much always have been i just never admit it.

either way, good luck to u, just remeber to stand up for whatever u believe in and dont let anyone change ure opinion of ureself. or something to that effect anyway. if u ever wanna chat u know where 2 find me <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

Former Member

yeh thats a good point, u might wanna make sure ure entirley certain that u r before u announce it to every one. good luck anyway <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

Former Member

I think its great that u feel much better and r comfortable with it. One of my best frinds is gay and when we were at school we absolutly hated each other...he was such an arsehole and it was definatly donw to the fact he was confused. He has since come out and we r really close because he is being himself. I think its great, u shouldnt have to hide your true self from anybody in life <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

the_Paranoid_bunny

awww...its brilliant you can talk about this...if you are gay then congrats...go and find yourself a man!!!!lol

Former Member

Cheers 4 the support peeps !!

I do take on board the fact that it might have been a bit sudden, but I have been thinking about gays etc for a while now, and this latest experience, gave me the kick start I needed.

Former Member

Originally posted by ConfusedMale:
Cheers 4 the support peeps !!

I do take on board the fact that it might have been a bit sudden, but I have been thinking about gays etc for a while now, and this latest experience, gave me the kick start I needed.

cool im pleased 4 u. glad we could all help as well <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;



[This message has been edited by charley (edited 17-05-2001).]