to cheat or not too cheat?

Former Member

well ive been going out with my girlfriend for 3 months now and its been great! but im going on holiday in the summer, and i think im gonna find it very hard to stay faithfull, even though i think i love this girl. Im gonna try my hardest, but do u think what she doesnt know, wont hurt her, cause it will mean nothing. And also this girl has invited me to stay with her for 3 days in wales and we had a summer romance thing last year and she has been saying that she is gonna fuk me and stuff, i wanna see her but i dont wanna be tempted, cause knowing me ill do stuff with her. oh shit, now i know im gonna be judged and u will all say no no no, but i wanna have abit of fun, sorry, i sound like a bastard, which i am, but i dunno. thing is she suggested he have a break while im away, so is she expecting me to cheat or will she?

Former Member

Seems like you are not committed so I reckon you should just come straight out with it even though it will hurt. This will save you guilt also.

Former Member

U really shud listen to what you are saying.
Even having the slightest doubt in your mind means you arent ready for a relationship.
The fact you are thinking about it shows you aren't really going to try and stop yourself.
You should either change how you think, at risk of severley hurting this girl you "love" or break up with her. Whatever you do, dont treat her like a piece of meat.

Former Member

what happened dude? from previous posts i thought u were really into this girl?

not judging, but if things are going great, you shouldn't even be considering this.

if you take this break, even if its condoned by your gf, do u really think things will be the same when u get back?

whatever do, make a choice. be faithful or have your fun. trying to have your cake and eat it too will only get you in trouble my friend.

good luck.

the_Paranoid_bunny

no judging but .if you have these thoughts really baaaaaaaad then you probably wanna speak to her and yeah itll hurt but if you do something after when your on hols...then im telling ew shes gonna find out,.....hold on...... oh no...... not that im gonna tell her, i dont even know who she is !but shes bound to find out someway it always happens......im spending too much time on the computer...argh my eyes!!!!anyway sorry ......shell (and ew) be hurt even more if she finds out not from you,....and that you didnt tell her....and trust me shell feel like scum...and that ewve really used her.so save yourself some agro... <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/eek.gif"&gt;

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Former Member

Well like most others have said i agree.
If u are having doubts about whether or not u can stay faithful 2 ur girl do u really think u should be in a relationship wit her?!
It sounds 2 me like u aren't ready 2 be wit her if u wanna go do stuff wit other girls u know!!!
U need 2 talk 2 ur girl & tell her how u are feeling but please don't cheat on her coz even if she don't find out u will prob be feeling really guilty bout it & ur relationship wit her will never be the same! Trust me!
Good luck!
Helen xxxx

Former Member

u r all right, i know u r! but its just in other relationships im used to getting some action, but she is very shy and im getting increasingly sexually frustrated. but i dont think i could break up with her, which means that maybe i like her too much to do anything with someone else, but im naturally a flirty person, but i think u r all right, i wont! hopefully these new found morals will stick