My on-line love experiance

Former Member

Hey everyone, I would just like to start off by saying that this is my first post and that I would really appreciate genune responses to my current problem.

I met a girl on-line in October in a yahoo Chat room, we seemed to get on so great, she told me she was 24, lived in Cardiff, had her own place, etc. After 2 weeks I gave her my mobile and home numbers so we could chat in person, and we did chat, we ended up talking on the phone all the time, it was great. I then asked her to meet up with me around december time and then that was when she told me that her father was very ill in Newcastle and she had to go up there to be with him. Now in January, I received a phone call from her father, it was a cardiff number, so I knew she had been lying to me. he called to ask why my number was all over his phone bill and that his daughter was really 17 and she had taken his mobile phone to use. She eventually admitted that her parents are so against the internet and over-protective that she was too scared to meet me in person in case they found out cause she was only 17 and not 24, her sister had told her to lie too, because the internet is such a different place to meet people as they can say absolutely anything. Anyway, Julie told me she has fallen for me and that she never meant to hurt me by lying, she just didn;t want to cause problems with her family, becuase her ex was a bit if a bad boy and he used to treat her like shit and hit her around a lot. She said there was so many times when she wanted me to know the real truth about everything and let me call her in cardiff (I only live in newport, 155 minutes away), but for months I was thinking she was in Newcastle when she was in Cardiff all along and I am so in love with her, and becuase of all this, her father sent her to Newcastle for real, changed her job and everything and now Julie wants me to go upo there to see her, am I crazy? or does anything think Julie loves me for real?. I would like to think she does as she talks to me every single night on-line and she has spent a fortune on phone-calls, is she messing me around or is she genuinely scared of her parents finding out about me, as I am 21 and she is 17?

Girl-From-Mars

omg that is sounds so much like something that happened to one of my friends a few years ago, only he was the one being economical about the truth. but you dont want it to end up like that, they ended up falling out coz he wouldnt meet her coz he was afraid how shed feel about him if she found out his real age.

i reckon she's for real. i have far too much faith in the internet <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; thats a shame she had to move to newcastle after all <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt; <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt; <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt; maybe you should meet up and see how things go? i dont reckon she's having you on or anything, i think she probably genuinely has feelings for you.

i hope it goes well, let us know whatever you decide!

oh and welcome to thesite btw <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; im going to uni in cardiff in september <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;

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Never put off to tomorrow what you can avoid altogether.

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another one from newport. scary.

anyway...

yeah, i have too much fait in the web. i dunno...i just sorta take it 100% for granted that the people i have on my yahoo list are for real. and some of them, i get to know so well that if they are lying, they oughta work for the CIA cos they're brill at it.

anyway...

sorry to hear about ur troubles. if u really do love her, yeah, i guess it's possible to get to newcastle, if ur willing. but such a distance...very few relationships can work like that. i know some that do tho.

good luck, whatever u do.

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shes coming bacl to Cardiff soon, but she wants us to see each other secretly cause her dad will flip, what shall I do??!!

Former Member

then why not get her to tell her dad your another guy and not met off the internet. or he against bf altogether?

pyrex

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her dad has seen my pic <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt; I am sure he will recognise me, he is protective cause Julies ex was a bastard, broke her arm, abused her and that <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt;

Former Member

God right if you like her and your in love with her im telling you now just go and meet her!

Serious man if u have the chance just go for it! If u feel it in ur heart that u love her and u could make something of it do it, i mean you obviously feel for her nuff cos u still wanna b wiv her even after the age thing!

If shes special dont let her go..

SHE COULD B THE ONE!!

(btw im havin funny problems right now and i just think when u gind someone just do NOT let them go)

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have you actually met the dad? if you did it may change his opinion of the bf thing and then be not so against the idea.

you could always change your hairstyle, get some coloured contacts <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt; <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt;

pyrex

Former Member

i think u should try some how 2 meet her dad cos once he meets u he may relaise that u r not like her ex was?? i dunno i dont think she is messing about though, i think u should meet her though!

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aaaawwwwwww feck.
king wotever.. um.. what part of newport r u from?

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hello shane <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;
im guessing that you're a student or a summat..

phew.
i thought u were andrew.
*feels better now*
dont come find me!!!

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Corpa, you know it? my e-mail is shane.o1@ntlworld.com of any one would like to offer me personal advice on what to do ok? cheers all!!!!!

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Susie, are you from Newport too?, I am on yahoo messanger too richeys_ghost99

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corpa road? <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt;
nefink else, i dunno WHAT youre on about <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt;

Former Member

I'm going to post a bit of my e-mail again because it seems appropriate here as well as where I posted it before....

Have you ever met someone who is exactly like you and you want a chance to be with that person because they make you truly happy, but there are obstacles in the way?

In life there are things that everyone must go through and questions that cannot be answered unless you take that chance. The only way to know who you are truly meant to be with, is to take those chances and whatever happens, happens.

Life is all about risks and it requires you to jump. Don't be a person who has to look back and wonder what they would have, or could have had.............

I hope that helps you <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; Good luck and welcome to The Site.