I really need some advice

Former Member

I've been going out with my girlfriend for almost 2 months now. I used to like a girl a few years back who was going out with my friend but when they split up I didnt really see her for 2 years. As soon as I started going out with my girlfriend she has started to come out with us again when we are out on a night. i like my girlfriend so much but I am finding it really difficult to hold off my feelings for this other girl. We have a really special bond, we have known eachother for years and we ave always been really good friends, she trusts me with her secrets and i trust her with mine. Now i dont have a clue what to do. I know that if i split up with my girlfriend its going to really hurt her and i dont want to do that. And i do like her so much, I realise that when im with her but I cant get this other girl out of my head. has anyone else ever come across something like this or can anyone just give me their general opinion or advise.

Former Member

I always find that wen im goin out wiv sum1 evryone else suddenly becomes so attractive but wen ur not wiv ne1 u dnt seem to fancy anyone-well i find that anyway! I went thru a similar situation not that long ago..i really liked this lad and thought about him non-stop while i was wiv my boyf,evryone was tellin me to finish wiv my boyf for him but something was tellin me not to cos i am so happy wiv me boyf so i stayed wiv him and i eventually forgot about the lad, it was just a little crush i think and im so glad now that i didnt do anything about it. If u think that u'd be happier wiv this other person then u may hurt your girlf by breaking up wiv her now but its better than leading her on and not feelin much for her. Do u no if this lass likes u?? theres a possibility that u cud break up wiv ur girlf and then nothin will happen wiv the otha girl then wot wud u do?cos u's av lost both! i cant really tell ya what to do but sum advice is-follow your heart and do what u feel is right..sum ppl may get hurt but its better than neva doin something cos ur scared of how other ppl will feel.
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Former Member

The grass is always greener, as Travis say! If you have feelings for someone other than your girlfriend your feelings for her obviously can't be all that strong. It sounds from what you say that you're just staying with your girlfriend because you don't want to hurt her? Maybe you need some time out to think about your feelings, a break from both of them for a week or two?