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Getting over someone

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
in Sex & Relationships
ok but first this is my 50th post yay for me <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;

ok now back to the question
does anybody have any tips on how to get over an ex? how do u know when your over someone?
I'm like a bird I'll only fly away. I don't know where my soul is, I don't know where my home is.

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Damn it was my 51st. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt; still special (yes I know only to me) :P
    I'm like a bird I'll only fly away. I don't know where my soul is, I don't know where my home is.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru

    Wish I could help.

    If you find out, let me know <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Here's some advice a friend gave me about this:

    "You mustn't try to deny feelings for someone when you have them - they have to fade in their own time. You won't forget how strongly you felt for him, but somewhere along the line you'll just stop feeling it. It might take something that happens to you to make you realise that, or it might be someone else, but you'll get over it."

    You won't necessarily get over him in an instant, and I certainly thought I'd never love anyone as much as I loved this one guy, but gradually it's started to hurt less.

    Now I'm in love with someone else and it's happening all over again, but at least this time I know what it going to be like, which is making it easier to cope with this time round.

    Hope that helps and good luck <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    It took me like a year to get over my first love. THe current one, well we broke up in Jan and im still sooo in love with him. It makes it harder cos i see him quite a lot and when we do c each other theres still HUGE amounts of chemistry so we like end up doin stuff. Its so hard to say no tho cos i still REALLY like him. Its stupid i know but its like at the back of ur mind theres a small voice sayin well maybe if u do this he'll realise how much he misses u and wants u back. Its not true tho. My friend did exactly the same thing and at the time i thought shed lost it but now im in her shoes its a different story. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt;
    I thought when my love for you died, I should die too. It is dead but strangely, I live on.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Sorry! Just realised how much of a tangent i was going off on there!!! I think all it takes is time. Lots of it, try and avoid seein him too.
    I thought when my love for you died, I should die too. It is dead but strangely, I live on.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Definitely need to spend time away from him. I still entirely wanted my ex and so when I moved about 5 minutes from his house [about a fortnight or so after he dumped me] he started to come over once a week to watch a certain tv program on digital [he doesnt have sky]. Anyway, seeing him gave me ideas of him still liking me and all this hope. Ended up with him going out with my best friend's older sister and having aNOTHER big falling out break up type thing.

    D'oh, this is like one of those impossible topics not to just talk about your personal experiences <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt; I guess that could help a little!

    Anyway, trying to be friends with someone when you still love them is not really possible. Although they might find it easy and it may sound tempting to be around them, eventually that will leave you feeling bad.

    As for speeding up the process of getting over him I guess you could use the old age one known as the rebound.. could make you want a meaningfull person and end up with you feeling worse though?

    Sorry it really is one of life's great mysteries

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    If its someone you were really really in love with, truly, seeing no flaws or imperfections, and you got it bad but you split :'( well sorry but its gonna take a loooong time and maybe never! It doesnt mean that you dont move on, cos you do, but when its love that feeling when your heart aches will always stay there. Come to terms with why you finished, and find someone else!! Only time can heal it...cliche but true! Love to you all xx
    **Tell me that you dont take that blade and drag it across ur skin and pray for the courage to press down...**
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