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Too serious ???

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
Bloody hell I'm really confused this time. Which means this might not make much sense. Anyway here goes.....

I been with my g/f for 1 month tomorrow, everythins been goin really well, we've only had 1 argument, well not really an argument, more me being a prick. But apart from that its been good.

The thing is, we have maybe been gettin on too well. She's told me she loves me. Yes I know it might seem a bit soon, but I dont like to define love, it means different things to different people. But I told her I loved her back, mainly because I thought she was half joking or whatever. And now we've begun to plan things (I'm goin to uni 100 miles away in autumn, then hopefully to get a job in London). She says she's gonna stand by me and that her heart is set on going there now, with me.

She's also talkin about havin kids etc etc

What I'm tryin to say is that is all this healthy for our relationship ?? Is it gonna burn out, purely because we been doin too much, too soon ??

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Oh yeah I forgot this bit

    I dont wanna tell her this, coz it might rock the boat + hurt her feelings
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    Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    when i was with my first bf, after a couple of months he was getting too scarily suffocating for me.. saying how we were gonna be together forever and not having any hint of realism, while i loved him at the time and everything i knew i would go out with other people in my life. and i didnt tell him. instead i told a friend on the net, amongst others, who i thought i could trust. but he ended up using another name and sending the log of our conversation to this guy who hated me at the time. and yep, you guessed it, he sent it to my bf at the time to "get me back" for not going out with him.

    and it hurt him. both my feelings, AND the fact i hadnt talked to him about it before. so, i think you should try and talk about this with your gf, it will hurt her more if she finds out your feelings from someone else first.

    Never put off to tomorrow what you can avoid altogether.
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    Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    oh and it brought us together, i no longer felt suffocated and wanted out, purely for that reason, coz our relationship was fine then, apart from that. so its worth talking, communication is always good in relationships, coz you get to know how the other person is feeling nad its good, believe me <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    Never put off to tomorrow what you can avoid altogether.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Yeah true

    But I DO want to b with her, she is kinda special to me, and I would love to keep goin out with her.

    But yeah maybe I should talk to her, she's the approacahable type, thank god.
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    Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    good luck <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    i know exactly how you feel though. it was only about 2 or 3 months into the relationship where it all happened with me, and we were together 16 months.

    Never put off to tomorrow what you can avoid altogether.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hi
    she is talking having kids after a months (I feel suffoctated and I don't even know her) (kidding sorry) um I went threw that with someone one he was just getting to into "us" I ended up breaking up with him but I don't really think there's anything wrong with your girlfriend she may just be alittle excited about this new relationship(alittle to excited) but then again I don't know I do think if it bothers you this much u should say something But be very careful the way u say this to her she might take it the wrong way then u have an even bigger problem

    ummm good luck with her <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

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