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What do you think of "playin"

BillieTheBotBillieTheBot Posts: 8,722 Bot
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i was wonderin, if i had a b/f i think i would let him pull a few peeps when he goes out clubbin wiv out me, u might think im mad but i think its good 4 em!

i wud be a bit jelouse but i dont think its fair 2 keep em locked up when they r in the main yrs of life when they should be out!

i think i would also want2, but when ur gettin 2 21 i would want 2 i think its just an adolecent thing what do u think ne stories? <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I'm a jealous person and if I was there too I wouldn't be able to cope with it, but if he was out on his own, as long as he told me I guess it would be fine....
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    Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    not fine at all.

    if you're in a relationship, its meant to be coz you want to be with that person, not coz you wanna snog anything else you can see. you shouldnt be doing that sorta thing if youre in a relationship if the other person might mind or if its anything more serious than a couple of 12 year olds having fun.

    i wouldnt like it if i knew my bf was off getting off with ppl in clubs, whether he told me or not, and i wouldnt do it to him either.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by x-rated_rebelgrl:
    i was wonderin, if i had a b/f i think i would let him pull a few peeps when he goes out clubbin wiv out me, u might think im mad but i think its good 4 em!


    You're mad.

    Apparently theres a difference between "seeing someone" and "going out". If you are seeing someone then its not serious and shit so I spose seeing him pulling girls in front of you is ok to you(?). But you described him as your bf which I always thought meant like proper, normal, "going out" type thing so Id say thats wrong.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    no good can come of this.

    reasons:

    1. where do you draw the line? when he's not in the club is he allowed to do this?

    2. what if he goes too far? will you get jealous?

    3. no true boyfriend would want too. if you allow him to do this, and he agrees, there's no committment and that's not a relationship.

    4. age is not an excuse. how ever old you are, if you're not ready for a relationship, that's cool. just don't think ur in one and believe that it's okay for each of you to mess with other people. this is something that is wrong when your in a relationship whether your 14 or 60.

    all i'm saying rebel grl is either have fun and be free, or be in your relationship. as open minded as you think u maybe.. sooner or later this is going to get to you if you try to do both.

    good luck.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Calvin:
    no good can come of this.

    reasons:

    1. where do you draw the line? when he's not in the club is he allowed to do this?

    good luck.
    I agree with Calvin where do u draw the the line , between whats ok and whats not personally I'm to much of a jealous person to do something like that

    But I think it could happen if you guys that open with each other and r willing to set rules but I di think it would be a hard thing to do way to hard for me to do.
    but hey if you think is't something u want to try then go for it

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    My mate Anne-Marie does this now with her ex b/f, she went out with him for 2 yrs but he cheated on her stupidly, she now just sorta see's him (as she is in love I guess) but says she could never go out with him because of the type of person he is...

    I personally can't understand it, last friday he got off with about 4 different people *WHILE* she was on the other side of the dancefloor, but they still ended up going home together, I'm not sure if she thinks that one day he'll change or something I dunno...

    Her answer to all this was; "well no matter what happens and who he goes with, we always end up back together"

    I think its a waste personally but then, shes a mate and I'll just keep picking up the pieces each time she gets suicidal off it...

    thats my experience of shared relationships anyway...
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Justin Credible:
    ...but then, shes a mate and I'll just keep picking up the pieces each time she gets suicidal off it...

    sounds familiar. it's not always pretty being a friend. maybe u wanna talk to her about it, but be firm and make her make decisions, even if it is harsh. and it may take some time, but in the long run it could save a lot of extra time and tears.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Oh my god i could never just stand by & watch my bf do that!!!! Its bad enough it being done behind ur back!! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt;
    I agree wit wot every1 else has said, u r in a relationship 4 a reason. If u wanna get off wit other ppl then u shouldn't be in the relationship.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    ur mad! if u let a bloke get away with that then they will take u 4 granted and u'll only end up hurt and a fool! a lad shud go out with u cause he wants 2 b with u, not cause he wants u & 1/2 of the girls in a night club.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    ok im not "mad" but i would hate 2 see sum1's life in the prime of ur years go down the pan hole, i wudnt want him 2 pull if i was there but like, what i ment was if he went 2 ibza ir sumwhere, the i want him 2 have the time of his life not worry n stuff, relationships can be serious but at this age its best 2 take as it cumms im 16 4gods sake!, i think if there was sum1 serious in my life i dont wanna get 2 50 n think god when i was 16 i should have done more, yer i had a loverly b/f but i didnt do the things i could have n have stayed wiv one person n not got life experience
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    interesting attitude towards life, not one i TOTALLY agree with, but i can the plus points of it.

    of course, by extension i take it ur hoping ur guy will give u permission to play the field when he's absent? and as girl when u do that, u'll get called a slag. so yeah, ur choice.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    y would i get called a slag 4 maybe kissin 1 person and goin no further i no girls who shag peeps they have only just met now thats a slag!, i wasnt askin if u agree but ur view point, i wouldt think that a girl is a slag 4kissin
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru

    Define slag...oops, you can't. Everyone different opinions on what's too much. If a girl - we'll call her Kerry for absolutely no reason at all - has a b/f and snogs say, 10 other blokes on a night out, I think it'd be fair to say she has somewhat slaggish tendancies.

    There's not much point in having a boyfriend if there's no commitment at all, you may as well just call it "shagging with a movie included."

    Nothing wrong with that as long as you accept it.

    And if your boyfriend did do that even with your consent, to the vast majority of people it would seem like your feelings weren't important to him.

    So not really a boyfriend at all <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt;

    *jmo*

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i can see X-rated-girl's point. and i know some of my friends would agree with her.

    i have one in particular who said that she wants an "open" relationship with her b/f. this means they will go steady during the week, but comes the weekend, they can go out with other people. they will be honest with each other and tell each other who they had went with...which i think it's even more mad.

    to me, i can't see it working. i don't think i can stand seeing my b/f going with someone else...even if im not there, just knowing that fact will kill me. which can be worse as it gives ur imagination the freedom to run while. so i don't know is doing it in front of u better. or behind ur back.
    if u really really like ur b/f, can u stand knowing the fact that he goes with other girls when ur not there? then seeing u on Sunday nite as if nothing has happened? i don't think i can look into the eyes again. it just wouldn't be the same.

    giving him the chance to go with other people in clubs...can also give u a higher chance of losing him. it might happen, it might not. but allowing him to go with other people when ur not there, more or less, encourages him to meet other people that MAY be better than you. then u end up losing him. then what?

    and drawing the lines are very hard as Calvin has pointed out. and can u really stand hearing him telling u about the girls he has went with?

    besides, relationships are all about committment and not hurting each other, trying to ruin the relationship and sharing ur kissing techinques to other people than ur current b/f.

    if ur thinking that u do want to go with other people because u wanna enjoy life a bit more, then maybe steady relationships aren't for ya. u can always go casual i guess. goodluck!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru

    Just be careful.

    You may end up regretting it if you agree to an 'open relationship'. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt;

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    The only bad thing about doing that is giving him the impression it will be ok to do that in later life...say in marriage?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    such shocking behaviour. If you're in a relationship you should be dedicated to that one person - you shouldn't think of, let alone talk to, anyone else; not even watch TV unless you are doing it together. Two player spac invaders is okay, as long as you disregard the Freudian imagery.

    Yeah, right.
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