How do i lose the loser??

Former Member

I have been with my b/f for 6 months now and things went great for the first 4 months.Now though i cant do a thing without him.

If i want to go for a night out with my mates he wants to come with us and then all he does is moan cos my attention isnt on him all the time.
He tries to tell me what to wear when i go out,as if what im wearing is gonna turn me into a sex mad maniac!!
We argue about every little thing and ive just had enough of it all.
Ive tried ending it a couple of tiomes but each time he promises things are gonna get better and he gets very emotional and i feel really guilty about it so i stay with him.Then it just starts again.
I dont know what to do.I know he really does love me and i dont want to hurt him but i need my life back.Help!!

Former Member

This sort of happened to me, but I was the lad in question, although I wasn't as bad. My gf has gone to a different uni, and at the start I was always ringing her, pestering her and just being a general sod. It REALLY upset her, although I didn't realise at the time. But she told me, and she told me how upset she was and if i didn't stop she would stop loving me, and break up with me.

Needless to say I improved A LOT. I ring her maybe 2 or 3 times a week, with 1-3 text messages a day. If you explain to your bf how much this is upsetting you, maybe he will realise for himself. Good luck

Former Member

Thanks, but ive told him how much it pisses me off and the main problem is that he thinks hes in the right all the time. He says hes been hurt before and now he cant trust anyone, so now ive got to suffer!!Great.
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Former Member

ive known people in the same situation and their realtionship has gone on (mostly unhappily) for ages. each time the bloke says he'll change he does but within a short while they're fighting again.
Recently one couple had a trial separation for about 2 weeks - and it sems to hav worked. They both realised that they really did miss each other but they had just been spending too much time in each others pockets and pissing each other off.
they are now back together and really happy

i dont know whether this will help, i hope it does.

frag

Former Member

I have suggested this to him but he needs to come round to the idea. He thinks that we argue so much because we hardly see each other any more. The reality is we see each other loads and i agree that a break could help but the hard part is getting him to see it like that. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/rolleyes.gif"&gt;