Lack of Confidence

Former Member

I'm not quite sure where this should go so I thought I'd stick it here.

My problem is that I have very low self confidence, and I was wondering if anyone could tell me any tips on how to improve this.

I'm in a relationship but I still feel self consciece. And feel this is affecting the relationship. I love my b/freind to bits and don't want to lose him because of this.

It also affects other aspects of my life. Such as friends, career.

I'd be grateful for the advice.

Thanks

Former Member

dont think about the bad parts of u but the good! u will soon realise there are more good than bad + if possible try to change the bad parts if it is confidence think to urself i am fine i am a great person if u think it it will reflect on how u act!

Former Member

Have you ever though about going on a assertiveness course?? My sister lacked confidence and wouldnt say boo to a goose, she got treated like shit at work because she wouldnt stand up for herself she would also never have the balls to say what she was feeling in her relationship with her boyfriend.
She signed up for an assertiveness course and now theres no stopping her. You can really see a difference. She's got so much confidence (but not to much that its annoying) She's alot happier at work and shes in a great healthy relationship and she stands up for herself.
Im sure they will run them at your local college whats the harm in giving it a go you've got nothing to loose!

Good Luck

Former Member

My problem is that I have very low self confidence, and I was wondering if anyone could tell me any tips on how to improve this.

Can you identify whats causing your lack of confidence?

Perhaps you should talk to your boyfriend about it. im sure he`ll be able to tell you how wonderful you really are.

no one can give you confidence it has to come from inside.

go buy yourself a outfit, get your hair done and pamper yourself. when you star feeling better about yourself you`ll find that confidence start to build.

if you wanna have chat about it feel free to mail me.

Former Member

Hey (im 22) just for info............. and I spent the whole of my childhood/teenage life being realy unconfident.... It is only in the last couple of years that I have decided people have to like me how I am and not how they want me to be... (not in an arrogant way but in a self positive way)

I still have problems in my relationship (yep engaged for 18 months and still get insecure)

You need good people around you who can encourage you to be more confident... and you need to decide to find more confidence! trust me it works... there are good days and bad but it will get easier <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

Former Member

go out and get a totally new look. If you have long hair, chop it off!! If people notice a difference in your appearence then they will compliment you giving you good self asteam.Because you know that you look good you will become more confident, plus you must be doing something right because you have got a b/friend and it must have took some confidence for you to get with him in the first place!

Former Member

hey mr angel didn`t i say that?

Former Member

Originally posted by joeboy:
hey mr angel didn`t i say that?

maybe, but he outranks you <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;

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Because I want more stars.

Former Member

J, i know these are only words but my heart really does go out to you, i get that lonely at times. I don't want to get too close to people in case they hurt me, it's a subconcious thing and screws up my relationships <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt; Crazy?! nah there's nothing wrong with helping people it's just it's so damn unusual that it can be mistaken for strange behaviour! Those members of da filth(erm...fine upstanding social figures i mean)were probably very surprised that you cared and didn't know how to react, tba i usually call people mad when they risk themselves for others(i mean it in a nice way <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">) Well if you do decide to bring up your demons from the past and confront them it will help, i speak from experience so feel free to dump on me, ok?

Nice webpage, i like chilled. I've got a mate who could probably help with your space problem and highspeed link, shall give him a holler.

Former Member

No prob J, arn't we just one big happy family *throws up!*

Former Member

Nah, just the soppy sentimental stuff mate <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;