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I'm a 16 year old girl and I'm bi. Most of my friends don't know yet. How can I tell them without them not wanting to be my friend any more????
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http://www.thesite.org/sex/general_sex/coming_out_checklist.html
Sadly, I can't promise you that they will all react well, but hopefully most of them will be OK about it. Maybe you would like to talk it over with the experts first? The numbers to ring are London Friend (at the end of the coming out article) and also:
London Lesbian and Gay Switchboard (helpline for lesbians and gay men, offering support and information) Helpline: 020 7837 7324
Best of luck
Karla
Love all of you,
Jessica
Becuase you're quite young you're friends may not have come across anyone else who's bi before, so it might startle them at first. But I wouldn't keep it a secret cos it could cause problems later on (e.g. if you end up fancying one of them or some other girl you all know). Better to have it out in the open IMO. I agree with Rachael about the friendship thing.
Ive got some great male friends who r gay, and I no a few girls who r bi and its never bothered me. My gay friends are some of my best friends as they r such a laugh and I talk to them about bloke troubles (coz they r guys and they fancy guys they give the best advice on this subjest!). When I found out they were gay it didnt faze me at all, but thats not everyones oppinion and a lot of girls get totally freaked by it all. I hope that if u decide to tell your mates they r understanding and they r good enough to like u no matter what u r. Good luck!
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No, seriously, you should tell your friends that you are bi, and if they do not agree with that, then they are not very good friend's are they? I'm sure they will be fine about it though, it might just be a shock to them, or maybe they've always thought it of you!
My ex was bi, and none of her friends/family knew, i am the only person she has ever told. She's not strictly bi though, dormant, not practicing!
Anyway, All the Best
Mark
The only fate that exists is what we create for ourselves
Anyway
http://bi.org
Personally I find most coming out to be in bad taste - I wouldn't normally discuss sex with this person, why are they telling me this?
On the other hand "I'm having a coming out party on Saturday - do you want to come" seemed to be a really neat way of doing it
Just be yourself. Don't let "what others might think of you" affect what you do. If your with mates you'd normally say "cor he looks cute" to, and you see a lass that does it for you, say "cor she looks cute". Don't lie.
[This message has been edited by Carriage Return (edited 06-12-2000).]
[This message has been edited by Carriage Return (edited 06-12-2000).]
the point i was trying to make is that is if people won't associate with you based purely on your sexuality then they aren't worth the effort of having them as your friends - because real friends accept you regardless of anything.
Just dotn hold n e thing back, if u see a girl that's fine say she is.. especially if other ppl(blokes) comment on her agree with them.
Ppl might might start asking u n just admit it... dont hide it but dont make it a big deal.
Yeah, thats what I meant!
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Thats about it!!
Jessica
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We have become a lot closer since and i love her loads!
Only kidding jessica, i have plenty of gay friends and I dont feel threatened by any of them. If they turn against you, it just proves that they are narrowminded and not worth knowing.