Feling a bit lonely

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Ok so i have lots of mates, no so much mates i go out with but i do have a lot. My two best mates, Hana and Leah. Leah now has a bf who she spends her life with and never rings me anymore or anything to go out. Hana also has a bf and she goes out with another girl on fri nites and over weekend and stuff. Im going out with a mate tmorow, and Hana mite be comin. Thing is i just feel dead lonely, feels like no one wants to go out anymore I cant go out much anyway cuz of my physco ex bf who stalks me, but its shit, i used to go out loads and now im just like, all sad

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do you feel lonely, just because, or is it more like abandonment from your mates

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I sorta know how you feel Tink. My friend has had a bf for 9 months now and I constantly get left out. I did end up having a huge go at her at the start of the year (after not seeing her for nearly a month over xmas) and it's sorted out a bit now. Maybe you should have a word with your mates and just mention that you're starting to feel a bit left out. If they're good mates they should understand and maybe you can sort something out.

I sympathise...sometimes you can end up feeling really lonely. Maybe you feel like when you call and txt you're making an effort to see them but they never recipricate it? If that's also true then I know exactly how you feel. Just have a word with them. Hopefully they'll understand and you'll feel a hell of a lot better.

*Hugz*

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Re: Feling a bit lonely

Originally posted by *TiNK*
Ok so i have lots of mates, no so much mates i go out with but i do have a lot. My two best mates, Hana and Leah. Leah now has a bf who she spends her life with and never rings me anymore or anything to go out. Hana also has a bf and she goes out with another girl on fri nites and over weekend and stuff. Im going out with a mate tmorow, and Hana mite be comin. Thing is i just feel dead lonely, feels like no one wants to go out anymore I cant go out much anyway cuz of my physco ex bf who stalks me, but its shit, i used to go out loads and now im just like, all sad

If you really felt that lonely then youd pm me!:p anyway im sure its just phases! I bet they have felt the same when uv had bfs and they havnt! Just ring up other mates etc.

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Originally posted by xXxHelzxXx
I sorta know how you feel Tink. My friend has had a bf for 9 months now and I constantly get left out. I did end up having a huge go at her at the start of the year (after not seeing her for nearly a month over xmas) and it's sorted out a bit now. Maybe you should have a word with your mates and just mention that you're starting to feel a bit left out. If they're good mates they should understand and maybe you can sort something out.

I went through the same recently. I was with my ex for 3 years and my 2 best girl mates have been with their boyfs for 4 years & 2 years. So when I became single all of a sudden I had no one to go on girlie nights with, and help me go out on the pull, cos all they wanted to do was stay in with their boyfriends. In the end I had a bit of a go at one of them because I felt the only time they wanted me was if their boyfs were busy or if they'd had an argument. My friends said they didn't realise what they were doing and once I'd mentioned it they weren't quite so bad! Maybe if you tell them how you feel they'll act a bit differently?

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try and explain to them calmly and rationally because if you go off on one they will only accuse you of being jealous. I don't quite understand why when people get into relationships they don't want to socialise with their friends any more, how they can be so blunt cutting them out. I'm in a serious relationship but it doesn't stop me having a good time with people other than my boyf

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I already have had a go and talked calmly and she never takes it in, it really winds me up. Il get over it.

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i know exactly how u feel. i used to have loads of friends and now im the one left at home on my own all the time.
one of them has a long term boyfriend and another lives near her so they all go out together and i dont even hear from them anymore. like its one's birthday today and they've all gone out together and not invited me.
another had a boyfriend for a long time and made friends with all his friends and even though they have broken up she still goes out with all of them. she invited me out tonite but never told me when and where and ignored me when i asked. and ive not seen her in about 2 months.
all the others i've just lost contact with. and when i try to regain contact they just dont want to know.

i know exaclty how you feel tink, and it sucks so much