when blokes say.......

Former Member

when a bloke says to you, i just want some fun at the mo, i like you and dont wana hurt you, is he just after sex???

Former Member

or maybe he wants more than a shag but nothing too heavy?

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hmmmmm :chin:

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No strings attached, regular sex for comfort. Yeah -

Though things could change when you get to know each other, then again maybe not - Just try not to get hurt -

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Former Member

:yes: sex and thats it, be careful, i just got myself seriously fucked up over a lad and thats all he was after

Former Member

Yeah, he's just after a laugh which probably includes sex. Doesn't make him a bad guy, though, because he's been honest with you and told you that's all he wants. If you can't handle that kind of casual, uncommitted relationship then don't get involved with him. He'll only turn around and say 'well I did warn you...' when you get upset about it.

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MALE TRANSLATOR

A lot of guys can sometimes find the prospect of a full-blown relationship daunting, and a lot (though not necesarrily a majority) of girls tend to put too much into a more casual partnership, which can freak guys out.

Doesn't make him a bad guy, though

As L's Sax said, he's told you what he is looking for in a relationship, and it's a perfectly reasonable thing to want.

Here's my translation (based on what you've told me)
This guy wants exactly what it says on the tin. He finds you physically attractive and cares about you, but for whatever reason he doesn't want a relationship. This is a personal decision, probably based on past experience and is no reflection on your character. He is worried that you are trying to steer it in that direction and doesn't want to see you get hurt if he had to burst your bubble and bring you back to reality with a bump.

This doesn't mean that things can't develop between the two of you, but as long as you are willing to go into this with the expectation that it will be nothing more than casual, I don't see you getting badly hurt.

Former Member

fank you everyone who replied. the thing is i do like him, and fear i will get hurt if hes just wanting the sex. i duno what to do.i hate being in this situation.grrrr.

Former Member

Here's some very straight forward advice:

If you don't feel that you can handle a casual relationship with this chap, even *before* anything has happened, then don't get into one.

You *will* get hurt and he has been honest with you.

Perhaps things could develop in time, but that is a risk you would have to take.

Personally, from what you have said, I wouldn't bother as you're not in the right place mentally for it.

Hope that helps!



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