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my fault - mum in hospital
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Well today my mother went into hospital (psych ward) to do with her depression and stuff that has happened lately. I then found out she is staying in there. All the blame has been shifted on to me (lil miss socks says - it isn't his fault) by the family.
this has made me feel really shit, and I don't know what to do, I just feel like ending it all. it's all doing my head in, what can I do?
this has made me feel really shit, and I don't know what to do, I just feel like ending it all. it's all doing my head in, what can I do?
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Other than that mate, I can't really help you a great deal.
YEA! thats really gonna help your mum! {sarcasm}
Well why do they think its your fault?
Your mother is not your responsibility tbh.
:crying: It's fucking my head in. she must want me gone if she tries going because of me
Go to school and do what she asks of you, there you go.........problem solved.
I do everything for her but it's not good nuff for her.. ooooooo no i gotta do alot better for her.. nothings ever pleases her:rolleyes:
She wants you to go to school, you refuse. you get your arse into gear and do what she wants and you will help things.
Do you want to keep having problems at home ? if you do then just keep bunking off school.
or
You can get yourself into school, get a decent education and then get a decent job. If you dont then your gonna need a lot of luck to even get a job.
your decision really !!!
Your Mum wants whats best for you, do you think she wants to see you end up in a dead end job ? She nags you to go to school because she cares.
Also you probably aint the cause, but its probably a lot of things all put together and eventually its taken the toll on her.
That's not the most helpful thing you've ever said.
I seriously doubt that you are the reason why she overdosed, but for most people there always has to be someone to blame- you truanting seems nice and convenient and safe, without questioing anything. Their guilt is passed on, and everyone is happy. Or something.
Doing something stupid will only make your mum worse, so don't. You aren't responsible for your mother's mental health, so don't let anyone make you feel that you are. The truanting and the worry won't help, but hey- if I had to put up with the shit that that school has thrown at you, I wouldn't be exactly willing to go either.
Don't hurt yourself and don't overdose, because that will make matters 100 times worse. Suicide is not a way out, it's not an option that's sensible.
Check the other post I made, I said its probably a few things put together and he probably aint the cause.
Edited to add schooling has caused problems in the past, my response was not just based upon what has been said tonight.
It would DESTROY your mother. If you want your mum to get better then visit her as often as possible and give her support.
BECKY I AM GOING TO SCHOOL I HAVE BEEN FOR THE PAST WEEK.
thanks for the advice but it feels like they want me gone, I'm the problem so why not eliminate the problem if you can't control it.
Words of my brother on the phone last night "your the reason why she is in there. your the reason she did this and it's all your fault" something along those lines anyway. I couldn't do anything last night as I had lil miss socks with me so obviously I couldn't do nowt but tonight could be diffrent.:(
:banghead:
Take the advice, and stop bleating.
Sorry, but Jeesh.
heh.. she loves the area to much, where lucky to have this house aswell and all of our imidiate family are in the area, she wouldn't go for it. If anyone moves it'll be me,
Kermit. I am taking the advice:rolleyes: geez.
Unfortunately, it doesn’t seem the same for you. I’m so sorry about your mum, but please don’t blame yourself. She sounds very unhappy anyway, and it sounds like it wouldn’t have taken much to tip her over the edge. Your family is being completely unreasonable about the entire situation but try not to get too upset with them. Right now they’re most likely to be in shock, and so they are making irrational judgements as a result. It’s always a lot easier to blame something or someone when something bad happens – it ignores the real problems and makes the process of dealing with it appear less complicated than it really is. They will come round eventually.
Right now it sounds like you need to make a plan of action, both for you and your mum. Make getting things sorted at school your priority. Go in tomorrow morning and demand to see your head teacher – explain to them the situation with the bullies and that you won’t leave unless it starts getting sorting out. Also explain the situation with your mum and the point it’s getting too. The school has a responsibility to look after your welfare while you are there, and if they don’t, then there must be further action you can take against them. Don’t let them intimidate you or tell you they can’t do anything – THEY CAN AND THEY HAVE TOO – so stand your ground, be a real hard arse and don’t leave until you get what you want.
The next time you see your mum you can then tell her you are sorting things out at school and it should help her a lot. Use this as an incentive to get things sorted, it’s not just your well being at stake here but your mum’s as well.
Good luck, and don’t give in.
Katie x
It. Is. Not. Your. Fault.
Thank you franki and everyone.
Also thanks for this weekend franki, you helped me alot
I know this is a bit late in the proceedings but it's really, really important that you remember that depression is an illness, therefore it can't be your fault.
It may help for you to talk things through with someone outside the situation, you can call Saneline on 0845 767 8000 from 12 noon to 2am, they can offer support to anyone affected by this sort of problem.
Oh and I should have said this first - *hugs*
CB
thank you, It's just people are saying that I pushed her over the edge I feel so bad
Good point! :yes: but you make your life a lot worse. i mean.. you run away for attention, get arrested for attention! just so you can get noticed! and that's not doing your mum any good. You also have an anger problem which you need sorting out. but killing yourself wont make things any better, it will make things hell for your mum... just deal with your problems without giving your mum any grief.
p.s. i know this has nothing to do with this, but stop being perverted and stop listening to your brother and his gf having sex, just coz you can't get any yourself without making it all up.
Hey by the way... im going through the same sort of problem. my mum's still depressed, and ive got a LOT of problems at the moment... but i dont go running away and getting myself arrested. and you dont really get bullied at school, only verbal remarks you should just IGNORE it!!! but if you do get in a fight with someone (which isnt very often) its because you start it!! you cant control your anger, think about people like Robert... i mean he gets bullied ALL the time... you get nothing compared to him..
i think you just need to calm down and do what your mum says so you dont cause any more grief.
Oh...and keep personal shit of the board. you got summit to say to me say it to my fucking face...
heh.. I didn't listern to my bro fucking bon but it's pretty fucking hard NOT to hear them two:rolleyes: even lucas heard em aswell:rolleyes:
Anyway I DIDN'T run away for attetion. I wasn't ARRESTED for attetion, I wasn't even ment to get nicked, If i wanted to get nicked I would've commited a crime I KNOW I would've got nicked for.:rolleyes:
Oh.. and I aint bullied.. Erm..got 3chairs thrown at my head...Nope..not bullying is it.. get shit from people.. yes..verbal .. verbal is still as bad.. shoving... oh and I DONT TELL THE WHOLE SCHOOL I TOLD PEOPLE I THOUGHT I COULD TRUST, SARAH. your KNOW FUCK ALL ABOUT ME.. NO ONE KNOWS HARDLY ANYTHING ABOUT ME, I TOLD YOUR CERTAIN THINGS... some yes which I told no one but that was the tip of the ice berg.. the main people I talk to.. franki.. bon sometimes/use to.. and.. I DID you.
Yes Sarah, All my fucking fault isn't it, ALL MY FAULT.. suppose you agree with Greg when he say's I put my mother in hospital, I knew you was being bitchy to me but this bitchy,
Sarah... don't tempt me.. I could sit her..and say loads of shit about you aswell:rolleyes: but I ain't because I ain't as a cun't like that, but do one thing, keep away from me... keep out of my life..
This is beginning to sound a little bit like dirty laundry so it might be a good idea if you spoke to each other face to face about some of this stuff.
SeXySaRaH - it can be really easy to say that people are attention seeking but it's worth considering why they might be acting the way there are.
Hellfire's having a tough time of it at the moment (he wouldn't have started this thread otherwise) so it might be a good idea to get back on topic.
CB
Thanks for all the comments people but when half of your family blame you for your mothers condition then it hurts, I know it's an illness but then I feel I must of triggered it then.
All the shit with school, Home and other stuff has taken a big toll on all of us but I can't cope with it, YES PEOPLE GO THROUGH IT EVERYDAY and they deal with it, I can't I can't deal with it, I feel so weak and helpless. This along with the S/H is bringing me down. I thought it anything would cause me to SH then it would be school but atm it seems to be home life, :crying: now I gotta spent a week on my own... brothers away.. just me... my dog,two cats and a lizard :crying: but I gotta stay at home cuz the animals while my brother gets to piss off round his gf's for the week.
NO one thought about me, My older brother was ment to help us out but he pissed off to a fucking party the day my mum went into hospital, selfish ****..
Ok, now everything else, that I can kind of not get annoyed with, but Graeme, YOU TOLD HIM TO GO TO BON'S!
:rolleyes: ffs
that worries me.
Yeah I told him because it saves arguement.. I feel so fucking lonely now:(
Killing yourself will never be an answer, it just makes things a million times worse for everyone thats left behind. You may not see that now, but its true.