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drinking to much!
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Hiya 
i think i might have a drinking problem! i love going out at weekends and getting really drunk, as far as not having a clue what ive done or where i am! My last night out i speant about £80 on drink, my boyf went mad as that was our rent ££!
Now i have drinks almost everynight, i cant help myself! what can i do??? xxxxxxxxx
i think i might have a drinking problem! i love going out at weekends and getting really drunk, as far as not having a clue what ive done or where i am! My last night out i speant about £80 on drink, my boyf went mad as that was our rent ££!
Now i have drinks almost everynight, i cant help myself! what can i do??? xxxxxxxxx
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Why dont you just not go out for a bit? and see how u are? are you like dependant on the drink or just want it when your out?
fair enough if you want a glass of wine every night but doing it becaue you "can't help yourself" is like your dependent on alcohol. it's best to stop this early. maybe tell your boyfriend you want to decrease the amount you drink so he can help make sure you stick to it.
£80 on drink in one night is a fucking lot! before you go out tell yourself how many drinks you intend to have and tell your friends too. also only take out a bit of cash.. no cards! then you can only have so many. its always difficult to tell how drunk you are when you're in a club so go to bars first where it's easier or drink at home before you go out. that way you know your a bit drunk and can have a good time but not so pissed that you're falling over.
to see a girl (or boy) as drunk as that is sooooo unattractive! falling all over the place with your eyes half closed is not a good look.
Hasn't failed me once, except the time I lost my shoe/sock....
in my opinion you dont sound like you have a problem, If your happy with your use and its not affecting you apart from your wallet i dont see the problem.. Just because you drink everyday doesnt make you a addict.
When I first worried I was drinking too much it was my dad who said things like how perhaps your BF is, but then I look at other ppl who do drink alot more.
Test yourself-see if you can do a drink free day in the week. If you can't then try to cut it down bit by bit in the week at least.
Moneywise its better and then you can work on the weekend getting drunk part.
My best friend still drinks to get drunk every weekend and spends £50 on booze easily so £80-even if the drink is £5 a time you still havin alot of drinks.
I'm sure someone will post the alcohol pages (moderators? plz I'm useless at doing links!) and take a look.
As I said at the start tho, you've recognised a problem-or at least a start of one so well done and good luck hun!
pm me if you want!
You spent your rent on booze?
I'd say you had a bloody problem all right!
So, what to do about it?
Make an appointment with your doctor, and talk to them about it.
Why do you want to do it? Not "I can't stop it", that's a symptom, what makes you turn to the hard stuff? It's finding out the causes that is the key to getting back on the wagon, and something that you really need to think about. And something that only you can answer.
I'd also highly recoomend joining AA.
Do you want to tread the post again?
She can't help herself. She is drinking every day. She is spending money she doesn't have on obtaining alcohol.
No, she doesn't have a problem at all! Moron.
It's always hard to admit we have a problem with drinking -especially when it stems from social situations, so good for you for speaking up. It sounds like you are seeking help sooner rather than later, which is a good thing - if you crack this now, you should hopefully be able to keep a healthy relationship with alcohol rather than binge drinking in this way.
We have some features here on TheSite that will help you:
Alcohol binges
Dealing with drink problems
Got a drink problem?
Try doing some different social activites for a while that don't involve just going out drinking - maybe go to the cinema or theatre so the time you can spend at the bar is limited - or give a friend a limited amount of money for the night and get them to buy your drinks at a slower pace.
If you want to talk to someone about these issues and get some one-to-one counselling, try:
Drinkline
Confidential telephone help, info and advice on all aspects of alcohol use and abuse. Calls are free.
Telephone: 0800 9178282
£80 is far too much 2 spend one 1 nite out tho...... that'd do me 2 nites lol
Next time u go out just take sumthin like £40 wi u that way if u run out u cant spend nemore and ur m8s will just pay ur taxi fare!
That happened 2 me once..... i went 2 afterdark wi my m8s one night and i took £50 with me thinking thats plenty (and it is) but i ended up spending it all so my m8s paid my taxi home! Never again has that happened tho coz b4 i go out i give sum1 my taxi money 4 cumin home that way i dont have 2 worry about keeping money and i can just really enjoy myself...... as u no i always do
U just have 2 be a bit more careful.......
hehe!
but yeah your right, i shouldnt take so much ££ with me!
love kandy x
God people can go through phases where they do drink like this then just stop it does happen you know.
Its called being young....
From what i read of her posts she seems to know what to do so why the fuck should she go into a AA meeting .... she knows the score all she has to learn is how to control her use i recommend just drinkin on the weekends, fuck off the weekday drinking problem solved....
Made me giggle.
Yeah, and a lot don't- George Best, anyone?
I'm sure he put it down to 'being young' when he was 20- not when he's 60 though.
Strangely, TheSite lists the AA as a good place to seek advice from- but hey, I wouldn't trust the professionals and those paid to help, now, would I?
Some of the things to look out for are:
getting into arguments because of booze;
getting into debt because of booze;
thinking about alcohol a lot, and when you'll next get a chance to drink;
binge drinking regularly, especially after going without.
Though, of course, I again wouldn't trust professional advice, and rely on the advice of someone on a message board who seems to think £80 isn't a lot of money.
Immature, LSS? I don't think so- TheSite lists the facts, the poster lists the facts, and asks a question. I give an answer, and criticise answers which I think are dangerously misleading.
But hey, what am I to know? It's not like I've done reading on alcoholism or anything, is it?
Because budgeting will suddenly cure an addict?
Get in the real world.
maybe a trip down the doctors could be a idea if she is finding things tough going but i think its a case of she has to be strict with herself, have some restraint and leave the alcyhol until the weekend.
Then better to stop her now before she becomes a 'problem case', why not nip the problem in the bud before it become's too big to deal with? Or before she causes herself some serious health problems?
I'm not having a go, I just think Kermit's on the right track - but alcoholism is a sore topic for me, so i'd want to try and prevent it before it got that far.
Please read the 1st post made here :
Thats 2 quotes taken from the 1st post and you think there is not a problem with someone who has to drink almost every night ?
Of course its a problem case, anyone who needs to drink almost every night has a problem, which probably will get worse.
So spending money she doesn't have, admitting that she can't help herself, admitting that she needs to drink every night and admitting she binge-drinks and drinks so much she can't remember what she did doesn't constitute a problem to you?
It's no wonder alcoholism is so rife in this country if that is considered not a problem.
Ok im changing my stance on the problem, stay off the drink for a month or 2 then go back at weekends and ONLY weekends... i believe one should have at least one vice (if they wish) but its only a nightmare if you go to extremes with it so moderation is the key... less is more in the long run..
He/she will probably feel anxious for a few days through the lack of alcohol but once your past that stage you will find other things to fill the time.
No and I never said it would. I was just responding to the way you took the piss out of him and focussed specifically on the money side of it. I haven't actually made any comments about addiction at all.
And yes, I thought it was immature the way you did the rather old and tired thing of taking a quote from someone's post and fucking around with it to take the piss out of them. The rest of your advice seems very sound to me and I'm not disputing that in the least, it's just things like that which piss me off and cause petty arguments on here.
OMG, some1 that thinks my problem is serious
love kandy x