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Does anybody know much about body language? Is it possible to tell whether he/she likes you or not, just by looking at them?

This follows on from our latest Lovelife article: http://ned.thesite.org.uk/relationships/lovelife/the_body_language_of_lurve.html



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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    sometimes, if u look at a lad and he looks back, then u look away and look back and he does the same then yeah, normally it means someint. or when u hold some 1's glace for a longer period of time than normal.
    also ive heard if ur sitting down and a girl crosses her legs towards a lad then shes interested, and vice versa.
    if when talkin u touch the other person,
    hope thats of some little use!
    c ya
    love helly
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    grooming, i spose is a give away...
    everyone should try and look their best..
    i dont really like show off's tho... see thru...
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    (because i want more stars)
    I think that it is possible to tell what a person is thinking from what they are doing, or how they are doing it! Don't ask me how though!

    BaRt
    Live Life On The Edge!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    General ways to tell if someone likes you (though not always the case) are:

    Males and females
    Body pointing - take note of the feet. If they point in your direction and not to someone else, the door etc it's a sure sign that they are interested (this applies to males and females, in both sexual and non-sexual instances).

    Apparently if they like you, their pupils dilate (get bigger) and is automatic (light does affect this also - which is why some places are dimmly lit. Dilated pupils are supposed to make you look more attractive ??

    Preening as mentioned in the article.

    Males
    Hands in pockets or tucked into their belts are a pretty sure sign that they are interested - allowing your attention to be drawn to certain areas.

    Women
    Playing with the hair, stroking/playing with objects and exposing the wrists are also signs.

    I'm sure there are many more which I can't think of or don't know of but they seem to be the most common.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i can now tell when people are lying to me thanks to my ex! lol

    i think it is possible to tell. if a guy has his hands in his pockets thats a sure sign... <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;


    The more sand that escapes through the hourglass of time, the clearer we should be able to see through it.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Drifter:
    i can now tell when people are lying to me thanks to my ex! lol

    i think it is possible to tell. if a guy has his hands in his pockets thats a sure sign... <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;



    If you are interested in someone, DONT FOLD UR ARMS, as this is a sign that you are on the defensive. You can always tell if they face you and move their arms to reveal more of their body.

    I can always tell when my gf is horny for instance when her pupils dilate, the same goes for women that you meet in a club or bar.

  • Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Mega Poster Posts: 2,822
    i dont see how dilated pupils make you look more attractive, ive seen pics of the same person to compare, like in mags and stuff, i dont see the difference!

    oh and alcohol dilates your pupils too, so whowhere your club ladies might just be pissed <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    yeah id agree with the arm crossing thing.. leg crossing i do all the time and i change them about, not according to who i fancy, maybe it doesnt work anymore coz im aware of it and so its not very subconscious!!

    and yep, id agree with what lolly said about looking and looking away, you can do it on purpose if you're flirting, blokes sometimes notice that (theyr'e rubbish at taking hints!), especially if you look at them longer than usual, and add a smile in at the end! once spent 4 hours flirting with a bloke on a train like this! lol shoulda talked to him... he was sooooo sexy, but i was going to visit my boyfriend at the time <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt; shame!!!! he got on at my stop as well! been gutted about that for the last 6 months! lol bet he was like my soulmate or something, typical...

    If you don't know where you're going, you'll probably end up somewhere else.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Girl-From-Mars:
    i dont see how dilated pupils make you look more attractive, ive seen pics of the same person to compare, like in mags and stuff, i dont see the difference!

    oh and alcohol dilates your pupils too, so whowhere your club ladies might just be pissed <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    yeah id agree with the arm crossing thing.. leg crossing i do all the time and i change them about, not according to who i fancy, maybe it doesnt work anymore coz im aware of it and so its not very subconscious!!

    and yep, id agree with what lolly said about looking and looking away, you can do it on purpose if you're flirting, blokes sometimes notice that (theyr'e rubbish at taking hints!), especially if you look at them longer than usual, and add a smile in at the end! once spent 4 hours flirting with a bloke on a train like this! lol shoulda talked to him... he was sooooo sexy, but i was going to visit my boyfriend at the time <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt; shame!!!! he got on at my stop as well! been gutted about that for the last 6 months! lol bet he was like my soulmate or something, typical...


    Being subconscious means you aren't aware of it! which is the whole point.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    legs crossed towards eachother - thats an unequivical sex invite.

    cher, clueless

    i'm not denying that women are stupid; God made us to match the men.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    yeah definately but i think it can easily be taken the wrong way but it can also make you realise something about someone you have never even though of giving a second look. Thats whats happened recently....so i'm stuck now........ any ideas anyone?

  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    copying is a sure sign, eg if you itch your nose, then s/he touches their nose... that kinda thing shows they like you.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Button:
    copying is a sure sign, eg if you itch your nose, then s/he touches their nose... that kinda thing shows they like you.

    & if you pick your nose & they fart, you know you're on a winner
    <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt; roflol

    j9



    I had a life once, but I stopped feeding it so one day it just walked away.

    MTS ^5 ;)
  • Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Mega Poster Posts: 2,822
    yeah the copying and mirroring thing is always a sign, although i do that with friends too, so who knows?! maybe i just fancy everyone lol... most likely that we're all just on the same wavelength kinda thing.

    If you don't know where you're going, you'll probably end up somewhere else.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by j9:
    & if you pick your nose & they fart, you know you're on a winner
    <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt; roflol

    j9


    Sick lady!!



    I've not lost my mind it's inserted elsewhere - hence the limp.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by j9:
    & if you pick your nose & they fart, you know you're on a winner
    <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt; roflol

    j9

    lmao <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;



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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    yeah i think u can tell a lot from body language. if a guy has his hands folded and sitting/standing not facing your body - don't think he's that interested, and if he does sit/stand facing you - you know what to do!! and of course...eye contact tho i don't think it's a form of body language! oh well...just thought i'll stick it in somewhere! hehe!
    when i flirt,hmmm...i tend to play with my hair a lot, flicking it or putting it behind my ears. obvious huh?? tho sometimes i do still fold my arms! i guess it's my little gestures...
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    This guy i know is doin pschycology (or however u spell it!) @ college & he said these r the main ways u can tell sum1 likes u:

    1) Touching of hair & face especially copying wot u r doin.

    2) Dilated pupils.

    3) Facing the same way as the other person (e.g towards u & u towards them)

    4) Wetting/moistening of lips.

    There were a few others but i can't remember them all!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Basically eye contact is the best form... although keep it going coz if not they start to think you don't like them or vise versa.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hey!
    I really hope that all of ur assumptions on body language r right, coz i have noticed pretty much all of them in the person i am MADLY in love with! I just havent been able 2 buck up the courage 2 tell him how i feel yet! Oh well... keep ur fingers crossed 4 me! Cheerz!
    Luv yaz,
    Kinky-K8xXx

    Kinky-K8xXx
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    female:sitting with legs open,messing with hair,flicking hair back,aparently a women blink 3 times as many when she is on the pull!
    <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif">*tisha* <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt;
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Kinky-K8:
    I really hope that all of ur assumptions on body language r right, coz i have noticed pretty much all of them in the person i am MADLY in love with!

    Good luck and I hope it does work out. But just a word of warning - don't get carried away with the idea of body language showing if a guy likes you, I know I did <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt; I read too much into his movements and convinced myself he fancied me too, then it all fell down when I asked him out *shudders at the memory*
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    it should be instinctive, reading peoples body language. mimicing breathing patterns, slightly open arms, blinking fast
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    what does it mean if she is constantly tucking her hair behind her ears?
    does it mean anything at all??

    <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/confused.gif"&gt;


    scirq
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    If shes tucking her hair back behind her ears and smiling I guess that could be a good sign, but if shes frowning or looks bored then you've guess it...

    I guess any kind of body language could be good because people express themselfs differently, some people insult others when they like then, its down to the person init...

    I guess so long as they don't throw up on you your doing alright

    having said that.. even if that should unfortunatly happen then that might just be down to the person being ill from food poisoning or something <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt;
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hmm, my g/f seems 2 think [email protected] she can read n e 1 from there body language. Dunno how tho, hmmmm i ask her 1 day, sorry thinkin out loud lol

    Who's name does God use in vain?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    The hands in pockets thing I can defintely agreewith. As on looking back I do exactly the same.

    Also, the fleeting-glance that seems to be associated just with girls I do also, so maybe its more a broad action.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I found this:

    Is it correct? Are there any statements that are completely wrong?


    Signs Of Interest: (accross room)

    I'M INTERESTED
    Sidelong glance(s)
    Looks at you a few times
    Holds your gaze briefly
    Downcast eyes, then away
    Posture changes to alert
    Preens, adjusts hair, attire
    Turns body toward you
    Tilts head
    Narrows eyes slightly
    Smiles
    Matches your posture
    Eyes sparkle
    Licks her lips
    Thrusts breasts

    DON'T BOTHER ME
    Never sneaks a peek
    Fleeting eye contact
    Looks away quickly
    Looks away, eyes level
    Posture unchanged
    Does no preening
    Turns body away
    Head remains vertical
    Eyes remain normal
    Neutral, polite face
    Posture unchanged
    Normal or dull eyes
    Keeps mouth closed
    Sags to de-emphasize breasts

    First Conversation Signals:

    KEEP TALKING
    Alert, energetic
    Pupils dilated
    Gradually opens posture
    Lowers drink
    Touches self gently
    Caresses objects
    Crosses and uncrosses legs
    Flashes of palm
    Crossed legs steady
    Dangles shoe on toe
    Hands never touch face
    Touches you for any reason
    Feet firmly on floor
    Loosens anything
    Leans forward
    Steady hands, feet

    MOVE ON
    Tense, restless
    Normal or small pupils
    Posture remains closed
    Keeps drink high
    Grips or pinches self
    Squeezes, taps objects
    Legs remain crossed
    Back of hand gestures
    Swings crossed legs
    Keeps shoe on
    Touches face
    Never touches you
    Feet on edges or toes
    Tightens anything
    Leans away
    Tapping, drumming
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    good post astra, thanks.

    bb

    be happy
    <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.stopstart.fsnet.co.uk/new/bettylou.gif"&gt;
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Yea ok but what if a guy does find a girl attractive etc and is just too bloody nervous to do anything like the body language thing and just freezes <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt;
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    then u ring me and ill dictate a speech2 u <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt;

    nah look, here's the deal ma friend

    not every girl u fancy is gonna like u, so u act like a battery...u stroll over to her, talk2 her and you go in negative in that she aint gonna like u. u do ur best, u use ur voltage to push the flow along and see what she says

    wiv any luck ull come out positive cuz u know she likes u 2

    <laughs at that shite analogy>

    fucking talk2 her, if she dnt like u its her loss, go find another one that will. if u expect every girl u like to like u then ur in trouble ma friend....cuz ull neva find one that does cuz ull b 2 scared to ask

    so just bite that lip and go in there! <applies to oral sex too> <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt;

    Don't knock masturbation, it's sex with someone I love <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.stopstart.fsnet.co.uk/smilie/ukliam2.gif"&gt;
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