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ex boyfriends, friends?
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hi everyone
i was just wondering what you all thought.
if you have a ex lad or lass that you really liked could you still be friends with them i mean like best friends or not.
would it just be orkward (dont know how to spell)
or would we be better off just speaking to them now and again.
hope to see you replies any welcome
i was just wondering what you all thought.
if you have a ex lad or lass that you really liked could you still be friends with them i mean like best friends or not.
would it just be orkward (dont know how to spell)
or would we be better off just speaking to them now and again.
hope to see you replies any welcome
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so i take it you got an ex that you like to get back with eh??
maybe you need to show them what they are missing out on <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
It really depends on the circumstances.
If it was just someone you were jumping into bed with or a semi-serious relationship no real "in love" kind of stuff then yeah maybe.
But if you've falling in love with someone and then break up (especially if it is their call) Do you really think you could bear to see that person all over someone else?
I, unfortunately, could not.
Phil. <IMG SRC="frown.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
<IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> at all!!!
I have 3 exgirlfriends that I am still really pally with. Theres no reason for you not to be.
When I split with the first ex, I was still really keen on her and she wasnt but after a while I found interest in someone else while me and my ex remained best of buds!!!
Thats my opinion, hope it helped!!
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I broke up with my ex in Jan & we were still really good mates for a few weeks until I started seeing someone else. He got really weird with me & started slagging off myself & everyone I know.
Now that me & this other guy are split (although it never was anything serious!) he is being all friendly etc again.
It pissed me off at first, the way he was with me & stuff but then I thought if it was a role reversal I would probably be feeling like shit as well.
To be honest though, i'm not really mates with any of my ex's. I mean if I see most of them out & about i'll say hi & stop for a little chat but I wouldn't say they were my friends. I guess it depends on the person though!
Cheeseontoast - so if you really liked them and it was only a one sided you think you could not be friends?
I find it hard to be really good friends with someone if i've already had more than that, if you get what i mean?
well let him know you still like him for a start, then see if he likes you back
if you see what he does if you mess round with his mate, but that way you could be playing with fire.
you could ask a mate of his if he still likes you? if he already found a new gf then you may need to move on yourself
i'm sure the girl have much better help then me. It hard when you like someone but they don't like you back
well you tell him you like him and if nothing happens you know that he is missing out on something great...U
staying best mate with him maybe to hard for you, maybe find your self a new best mate or a new bf
I think it's a great idea though, wish I could be friends with my ex <IMG SRC="frown.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
As others have said it does depend on the situation and I do feel that I am really lucky to still have this guy as a pal.
I was speaking to my current boyfriend about this the other day and asking him if he thought we would remain really good friends when we eventually break up and he said he would like to but would find it too difficult because he would always want a relationship with me.
Do you want this guy back? I can't tell whether when you say you want to be best friends with him, whether you want it to develop into another relationship..cos thats what it kind of appears like. Who did the breaking up then? If it was him, I would give it time..make an effort to make him want you back if thats what you want..but don't smother him - then if he does decide to get back with you, it will have been his own decision.
by all means it is a good idea to be friends after a relationship but as for being best friends that can sometimes be difficult, as usually one feels a bit stronger than the other, having had a relationship in the past. <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
and we got on so well, we could talk about anything, this carried on for months, even though i was going through my first serious relationshipa few months later, i thought this is great - best of both worlds. Then after i broke up with that guy he declared his undying lover for me and we had a fall out cause i felt like he only wanted me because he hadnt met anyone else he really liked and he was feeling a bit shit just having dropped out of uni. Anyway this ruined our friendship and we're trying to piece it back together gradually but it will never be back to how it was.
*feels sad, needs hug* <IMG SRC="frown.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">