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Why do I attract large women?
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OK this is going to sound like I'm having a go at fat women so please let me assure you I'm not.
The last 8 or 9 women I've been with have all been large, the smallest being about a size 16. Now I'm not saying this is neccessarily a bad thing, because they were all nice people and still quite pretty but it seems that only large women come on to me - why???
I wouldn't call myself overweight (I'm 6'1" and 13 and a half stone) and I can't understand this. It really would be nice to find something different next time and have a slim girlfriend. As it happens I don't like skinny women too much (give me a woman who's a stone overweight than someone who's a stone underweight any day) and prefer a more curvacious, womanly shape. So why the large ladies??
The last 8 or 9 women I've been with have all been large, the smallest being about a size 16. Now I'm not saying this is neccessarily a bad thing, because they were all nice people and still quite pretty but it seems that only large women come on to me - why???
I wouldn't call myself overweight (I'm 6'1" and 13 and a half stone) and I can't understand this. It really would be nice to find something different next time and have a slim girlfriend. As it happens I don't like skinny women too much (give me a woman who's a stone overweight than someone who's a stone underweight any day) and prefer a more curvacious, womanly shape. So why the large ladies??
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Flippin' 'eck I'm not!!! It isn't an "issue" for me, it's just a trend I'm questioning. If it was just a few larger women then I probably would not notice but the fact it's been the last 7 girlfriends I've had leads me to think there's something in it, and that's what I'm hoping to find out.
That's actually a very sensible idea but surely slimmer ladies need to feel beautiful too...?
Yes but obviously that's not applicable in my case?
most bigger girls get so much stick about their size that when they find someone who appreciates them regardless (i.e. you) they go for it.
smaller girls have their pick of all the guys who only like small women.
if you get me.
This is just an extreme but if I was in a room with 10 large women and 10 slimmer women and I was just being me, if any of them found me attractive it would be more of the bigger women.
Hypothetically speaking, of course.
Well, you have to be attracted to them toooo. :yes:
go for something different then, talk to slimmer girls.
Most sensbible advice to your problem.
Ermm....I do!! But I never have luck with them - only larger women!!
harsh.
Yes it is about the person and not so much the looks but.....how can I put this without intentionally sounding offensive....you are kind of limited to the, er, positions you can manage if the lady is of a certain size.
Having so many girlfriends being large then surely I'm entitled to look for something different?
But still, no-one has been able to legitimately answer my question yet.....
no offence mate...but you're basically asking why you attract bigger women. we don't know...and for you to have to go out with them in the first place, you have to be attracted to them too.
And I've never said I'm not attracted to them!
Anyway, in answering your question, I'm guessing it's because you don't intentionally try to attract the large ladies so you don't show too much interest and that. But because you are looking to try for a slimmer lady, you're coming across as trying harder. And that with most people is :no:. Makes sense, obviously I don't know the full context though.
Please excuse my stupidity.
Maybe you're one of those types of people that gives others confidence, even if you don't realise it, or makes them feel special? And maybe they felt like you accepted them for who they are?
Some people are like that y'know... they can give you a huuuuge confidence boost and just love ya for who you are rather than be all superficial.
And size 16... I'm size 16 and don't consider myself 'big',.
:chin: that could start a new strategy for me?
Many girls say they like confidence in a bloke, so the more relaxed, comfortable, and confident you are, then the more chance you have.